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When to pursue and when to be pursued?

Woman enjoys being pursued by man I have so much to say about this I don’t even know where to begin.  First off, as a woman, of course we prefer to be pursued.

We are feminine and lady like and we want our prince charming to come find us, fight for us and win us over.  Just like in the fairy tales.

This is all well and good, but when it comes down to it, our relationships don’t always pan out to be that fairy tale that we dreamt of.

Perhaps in the beginning its all unicorns and rainbows, but then something called “life” happens. Work, family, friends, pets whatever it may be, outside variables start to intrude on your fantasy.

This could very well make things complicated, causing less communication or even role reversal, which you have to handle very carefully.

Yes, it is true, men are the hunters so we want to LET them hunt.

We also have to make sure that we are making yourself available to BE hunted though (keep that one in mind ladies)  Playing too many games can be completely obnoxious if the guy is actually a good guy who is ready to settle down.

There is a happy medium that needs to be met.  Of course you don’t want to be too available and ready to go at his every beckon call or else he will start to think he can call you last second and you will just be standing at your door, ready to rock n roll at the drop of a hat.

All you have to do is show that you are available to be hunted by him, and then let him come after you.

You shouldn’t be able to do this because you are AUTHENTICALLY too busy with your own friends and your own life.

Not because you are playing games, be authentic, that is the key.

All you have to do is show that you are available to be hunted by him, and then let him come after you.  If you pursue a guy and do all the work, it just doesn’t feel good.

Just sit back, relax and he will come for you. I know (unfortunately) because I have been there.

How much better do you feel about yourself when he is the one that calls or texts you first!

When he is the one that asks you what are you doing or what are your plans for the weekend!

It makes you feel wanted and it shows you that he cares enough to contact you and inquire about your day and your whereabouts.

I get it, its so hard to wait when you know exactly what and who you want.

The best advice I can give you in this scenario is, make it known that you are available to be hunted and then let him hunt you. If he wants you bad enough, he will come for you, come hell or high water. Remember that.

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2 Responses to When to pursue and when to be pursued?

  1. BillK says:

    It’s “beck and call.” 🙂

  2. dragongirl says:

    Well, this is a good read. BUT: I have never experienced a guy chasing me. Don’t know how to get it done either… so, I just give up.

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