I think the world of all of my girlfriends. I’m friends with the hands down most accomplished, inspiring, confident and fun women on the whole planet. But, sometimes they come to me with relationship issues that I can’t believe they’re trying to resolve. Literally, they’ll ask me how to handle deal-breaker scenarios and my only advice is to dump the schmuck. So, I realized that if my bright, amazing women friends are tolerating men who are waving red flags like crazy, that means that every single woman out there is ignoring red flag behavior. And it has to stop. So, here are five deal-breaking red flags no woman should ever in a million years ignore.
He talks about his ex A LOT
Unless you met your perfect match as a high school sophomore, chances are that every dude you date has a romantic past. And that past will include ex-girlfriends and maybe even ex-wives. Of course, that’s fine. And it’s fine for you to know that he had a love life before you. What’s not fine is if he’s constantly bringing up exes, either in a longing-for-the-past way or in a really-spiteful-rage-filled way. Both mean that he hasn’t gotten over his ex and no matter how good you are in the present, his past relationships will haunt you two as a couple. Get out while you still can and find a man who is ready for a good woman right now.
You’re jealous…and you’re not a jealous person
Do you feel crazy jealous about your boyfriend? Are you worried that any time you’re not with him, he’s with someone else? Is this a normal set of emotions for you? If you’re not a jealous person and you’re suddenly a green-eyed monster since you started dating your dude, it’s probably because he’s giving you reason to be. And that’s not cool. To have a solid, lasting relationship, you need to be able to trust your partner. If your guy isn’t doing anything to be trustworthy, kick him to the curb.
He won’t talk about the future
If you’ve been dating for three months or more, you should know that this guy you’re your relationship as a long-term commitment. You should feel comfortable talking about the future with him and figuring out how you fit into his five-year plan and how he can fit into yours. Is that not happening? Does he make you feel “crazy” or clingy for trying to talk about the future? Ditch that jabroni and find a man who’s grown up enough to commit.
His friends won’t warm up to you
Are his friends keeping their distance from you for no reason whatsoever? That’s a major red flag. Either he’s friends with all d-bags, which is a red flag, or his friends don’t want to get close to you because he goes through women like toilet paper, which is of course a red flag. If his friends aren’t happy about his coupling off with you and you don’t understand why, it’s probably because your guy isn’t worthy.
He doesn’t make you feel awesome
When you hang out with your boo, can you tell that his number one priority is to make you feel completely awesome or does it seem like he’s out to cut you down? If it’s the latter, get the heck out of that relationship. A quality man wants his woman to feel like a million bucks morning, noon and night. A red-flag waving loser put his woman down so he can feel better about himself. Don’t spend another second with a guy like that. Have you ever ignored a major red flag and regretted it later? Be honest, here. I think we all have. Tell me about your experience in the comments.