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How To Tell If Your Relationship Is Rock Solid

A happy couple celebrates their rock solid relationshipAre you in a relationship and wondering if your two are going to stand the test of time or unravel at some point in the future? I think everyone in a real relationship wonders that at some point or another. Now, I’m not a psychic, but I do think that I can give you the answer of if you two are going to last or not based on five really simple criteria.

You can bounce back

Remember that crazy video of Solange freaking out on Jay-Z in an elevator? You probably haven’t thought about that at all because no one’s talking about it any more. Beyonce and Jay-Z are so rock solid that they bounced back from that fiasco with such grace and poise that people barely remember it even happened. While you likely won’t deal with a TMZ gossip leak over the course of your relationship, you’re definitely going to go through some tough times. How solid you two are is defined by how you can bounce back from that cruddy stuff.

You fight fairly

Every couple fights. That’s just a fact. And fighting itself isn’t a problem at all, as long as you’re fighting fairly. If you stick to the topic at hand, avoid name-calling and don’t dredge up the past when it’s not relevant, you’ll be fine. If, on the other hand, you do all those things, you may be on shaky ground. My advice to you would be to change the way you fight and talk to him about doing the same. This conversation is best to have when you’re not actually in a fight, though. So, do it now!

You prioritize your relationship

Your relationship with your partner should be your number one priority. Don’t let stuff like work, friend and busy schedules get in the way of focusing on your relationship. If you watch The Real Housewives of New York, you know that Kristen and Josh constantly bicker about Josh putting his career above his marriage. This is a major problem in their relationship. I have all the faith in the world that they’re going to figure out how to work through this, but when your marriage isn’t #1 in your life, it could dwindle down to zero.

You know honesty is the best policy

No matter what, you need to be honest with your partner. Even little white lies will come back to bite you in the butt. So, be honest about everything—and I really do mean everything—if you want your relationship to be as solid as a rock.

You work on it

The fact that you clicked into this article shows me that you care about your relationship and you’re interested in putting work into it. And that’s important. Absolutely no long-term relationship is a piece of cake. You just need to know that it takes work and communication and a whole lot of effort to get a relationship to be on solid ground and stay there. If both you and your partner are willing to put in the work, then I know you two will make it!

Long-term relationshippers, what makes your relationship work? Tell me in the comments!