Jealousy is called the green-eyed monster. And that’s really accurate because in general, jealousy can be a total monster to a relationship and ruin a fantastic couple. But, there are some upsides to jealousy. And I’m definitely not talking about him being jealous showing that he cares. That’s totally bullshit. If he’s jealous, that only points to about his insecurity. Not his emotions for you. I’m talking about you being jealous and how, contrary to what it may seem, that could actually be a good thing for your relationship. Here’s how.
Your jealousy may be well-founded. If you’re feeling jealous in a relationship, and in general don’t feel that way when you’re dating someone, ask yourself why. Is there something about this relationship that’s triggering your feelings? It doesn’t even have to be that your partner actually is deceitful or is acting suspicious. It could just be that he’s not speaking your love language or you don’t understand her schedule. But, then again, it could be that they’re a two-timing schmuck. If you’re feeling jealous and that’s not usual for you, think about why you’re having these feelings. Something’s weak about this relationship and it’s better to find out sooner than later.
If you’ve pinpointed what the potential issues with your relationship that are the root of your jealousy, it’s time to talk about it. If you need him to give you a heads up when he’s going to have a busy day and not be able to text for several hours in a row, let him know that. If you’re jealous because you’re not being loved in the way you need to be, for example you could need more words of affirmation from her or acts of service to feel loved, tell her. Instead of letting your jealousy eat you alive and ruin this relationship, see it as an opportunity to talk and have real relationship growth. Practicing your communications skills with your partner is always a good thing.
Something to work on
Once you’ve spoken to your partner, your jealousy is yours to deal with. Your partner’s doing their job and now you need to do yours. That might mean talking to a therapist to get down to deeper issues or just focusing on taking care of yourself. You could also try to get busier by getting involved in your community or picking up hobbies so you focus less on your feelings of jealousy. Overcoming this jealousy is something you need to work on yourself. And knowing that is actually a really good thing for a relationship. It’s going to be a challenge, but if you can work on it, you’ll be better for your partner and yourself.
Jealousy doesn’t have to be a death sentence for a relationship. Turn it on its head and use jealousy as fuel for positive momentum in your relationship.