Category Archives: Patti’s Blog

Get relationship advice from the Millionaire Matchmaker herself, Patti Stanger.

5 Signs It’s A Good First Date Before You Even Say a Word

First dates can be the kind of magic that gives Criss Angel a run for his money. They can also be the kind of hell that makes taking an ice pick to the funny bone sound pleasant. That’s the thing with first dates, they’re a total crapshoot. You could win big in the love department or end up with, well, crap! I have five signs that should help you determine if your first date is going to be amazing or if it’s just another first date dud before the date even starts. Read more

How To Deal With a Feud

Have you heard that Katy Perry is releasing a new song called 1984? Subtle, Katy. Real subtle. For those of you not in the know, Katy Perry and Taylor Swift are in a feud. On Taylor’s latest album, which is called 1989, she wrote a song that’s allegedly about Katy Perry entitled Bad Blood. One of the rumors is that Katy Perry was never that nice to Taylor and the straw that broke the camel’s back was when Katy Perry stole some of Taylor’s back up dancers to bring on Katy’s tour. I’m sure Katy has her side of the story as well. There’s also the confounding factor that both of them dated-slash-are-currently-dating John Mayer. The plot thickens because Katy just listed a new song with her publisher called 1984. That seems like a direct connection to Taylor’s album, right? Anyway, if two super busy, incredibly talented women can find the time to feud publicly, then I’m assuming most people have some sort of similar conflict in their lives. Well, here’s some advice about how to do it right. Read more

Online Dating Opening Lines You Should Never Use

Online dating or dating via apps (that’s still online dating…or is there another word for that?) is not easy. You HAVE to do it if you’re single and want to meet someone, though. Did you read that? It’s a must. No questions about that. Relying on in person connections exclusively is like running a mile with your feet tied together. You might get to the end, but man, is there an easier way. In online dating, the rules are a little different than with in person meetings. Women can and should make the first move online. The only catch is that it’s tough and easy to fall into the trap of starting with an opening line that’s going to get you nowhere. To help you avoid that, here are 5 opening lines you should never use on online dating. Read more

How To Deal With Impersonal Setups

I just read that Ellie Goulding set up Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris (everyone’s well, at least MY favorite couple du jour) because they were both tall. THAT was her reason. Um, does she think that Tay should date every single player in the NBA, too? That set up was based on nothing substantial. And a lot of my friends feel like they get set up with other people for superficial reasons, too. I think gay men have it worst. One of my gay besties calls it “gottagay.” As in, “I gotta a gay for you.” There’s nothing else connecting the two people, just that they both happen to be homosexuals. So, obviously they should date, right? Woof. Here’s how to deal when you’re approached with one of those scenarios. Read more

How To Have Sex When You Don’t Feel Great About Your Body

Oh, honey. I feel you. I really, really do. I think most women and probably a good chunk of men have felt the pain you’re in. Whether you’re dealing with a post-partum body, a few extra pounds, boobs you don’t think are big enough, thigh you don’t think are small enough or just a general “society is forcing me to hate myself so I do” crummy-ness, it can make getting intimate and feeling sexy seem very, very unappealing. But, no matter the shape or size of your body or how you feel about the thing, I know one thing about your body…it wants sex. It’s a natural thing that every body wants. So, don’t deprive it of this very basic necessity. Here’s how you can have sex when you’re not in love with your body. Read more

How to tell your friend you hate her man

We all have at least one friend who is dating someone we don’t like. Ok, that’s probably not accurate. We all have dozens of friends who are dating men we don’t like. And there’s at least one friend who is dating a guy we hate with the burning passion of a million and seven suns. Does that sound more accurate? Ok, well, what are your duties as a friend? Should you tell her? Well, I’m here to guide you through this sticky situation. Here are three questions you should ask yourself before you take the plunge into these sticky waters. Read more