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Hiring an escort: Yay or nay?

The Wedding Date and male escort servicesWho wouldn’t hire the swift and sexy Dermot Mulroney to sweep you off your feet? Lucky for Debra Messing’s character, their business arrangement blossomed into true love.

BUT — yes there is a “but” — even if you’re as beautiful and talented as Debra, it doesn’t mean you’ll find your own Dermot.

So, should you order in a man?

Escort services aren’t just available for men these days. It’s just as easy to find a male for hire. Within a few hours, you can have a man by your side to be whatever you want. Women today, like men, are empowered — we make our own money. If you want to spend it on an escort service, then that’s your choice, but consider the full picture before ordering your hunk.

What are the pros and cons?

Don’t expect to develop a bond with the men. Even if you regularly see the same person, assume that he is there because it’s his job. Women fall for men with their ears, so be careful not to misread his affection as the two of you are developing a deeper relationship. It doesn’t matter if it feels real when he’s charming and tells you how beautiful you are. If he’s walking away with a check, assume that he’s giving you what you want because that’s what you have hired him to give. If you’re able to keep your heart and head out of the equation to focus on the business transaction at hand, chances are you could have a great time with your hired hand.

If you’re having sex, don’t forget that he likely has other clients, which means that you are not just sleeping with him, but all of his clients, too.

The bottom line?

Save your money. Go buy a hot dress and go out on the town to find a date the natural way. Bring a book, smile at people, say hi. Flirt with the guy who bags your groceries at Whole Foods, the barista at Starbucks. You’re putting yourself in a position to find somebody worthy of a relationship that can fulfill your needs at no cost.

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