David, How Do You Get Him To Talk About His Feelings?
Ahh one of the questions I see in my inbox at last 100 times a week (at a minimum.)
“How do you get men to open up?”
“Why won’t he talk to me?”
“Why does he push me away?”
Here’s something you need to understand about men. You can’t force a man to talk about his feelings. Asking him how he feels all the time, and bugging him to open up isn’t the way to do it. In fact, the more you push a man to show his emotional side, the more he’s going to run off and hide in his man cave!
If you push him too hard, you might even find you push him away for good. Men don’t like women who push them into a corner, and we can’t stand women who bust our balls, especially about something as sensitive to us as emotions.
Don’t get me wrong. Some guys don’t find it hard to open up at all. Some guys can sit in front of a Lassie rerun and be crying their eyes out within minutes. So how do you get a guy to open up and to tell you how he feels?
The truth is, there is no way to get us to open up. The only thing you can do, is to make it EASY for us to open up when we’re ready. As a woman, you need to show us you’re understanding, nurturing, and open enough to be there for us when we do talk to you about our emotions. You need to create the right environment for us to open up.
For whatever reason, men feel extremely vulnerable when it comes to talking emotions, and don’t forget, we’re as fearful of having our feelings hurt as you are. In this video below, I talk more about understanding men and our feelings, and how to avoid pushing him into the man cave, because once he’s in there, you might find it almost impossible to get him out again!
This is a video worth sharing with all your girlfriends, because I’d say it’s the number one area women get wrong with men!