The J Spot

AskJustin: Hooking up instead of dating and pickup lines

Ask Justin Bird

Do people date anymore? It seems as if there are so many superficial relationships that are just for hookup purposes?Amanda, 26
Manhattan, NY

You’re onto something here. It’s mindboggling to me that the traditional custom of dating have seemed to go by the wayside superseded by shallow “hook-ups” and convenient “booty-calls” relationships. I get it, we’ve all had them. What happened to courting a woman, opening her doors, picking her up? I understand things have changed with the time and I’m in tune with them. The BIGGEST lesson here is that men will do what women allow them to do.

If women put their foot down more often with a resounding NO, then I assure you there wouldn’t be booty calls. This suggests that women want it too, right?

Now, don’t put your blinders on just yet because you have to believe there is still a fair amount of quality men out there just as I believe there are quality women. Whatever you deem as quality, that person is somewhere roaming around out there looking for you.

If you are an ass, you will attract another donkey.

In life, you attract “like” people. If you are an ass, you will attract another donkey.

I leave you with this….

Weed through the crazies and chalk them up as learning experiences on your quest to find the man who wants a serious relationship and not just a lousy “hook-up”. We don’t have enough sandbags to hold off the storm surge of crazies out there.

Men have the same complaint about you ladies too everything from the serial daters, cheaters, and the thirsty gold-digging types. Sometimes, by the time it takes us to figure you out, our wallet is light and empty

I promise,

GOOD men are out there, I know for a fact.

What is your favorite pickup line to use on girls?Cristi, 29
Charlotte, NC

Whoa! If I told you this, then I wouldn’t be able to use it ever again. I don’t want to let the cat out of the bag just yet! If I could, I would like to ask you what’s the best pick-up line a guy has ever used on YOU?

I’m not one for pickup lines to be completely honest, but conversely, I don’t think there is anything wrong with them. I think some are funny, awful, and everything in-between.

“A pickup line is only as good as the man using it.”

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. It’s all about the timing and the delivery. If you use one, make it jive with your personality type, whether you’re a guy or a girl

I prefer the women to give me a sign with her 3-5 second stare and then I’ll make the move because if I’m looking at her I’m clearly interested.

That’s really how simple it has to be, but noooo us humans have to play games and make it a challenge.