The biggest question I get from random women who see me and stop me for advice is “How do I know if he’s interested in me?” Seriously, I get versions of this all the time in person on the street, on social media and from my female clients. And while there are a lot of gray areas when it comes to love and dating, this isn’t one of them. I have very black and white views when it comes to figuring out if a dude is interested and I’m not shy about sharing them. (Big surprise, I know.) Because I’m unfortunately not going to get a chance to run into all of you in person and because as much as I want to, I can’t respond to every single tweet I get about this topic, I thought I’d put my three ways to tell if he’s really interested right here.
He makes moves
If I had a nickel for every time I said this, I’d be richer than the Queen of England, but I’ll go ahead and say it again. Men are born hunters. If they want something, they go after it. And going after it is the key. Saying yes to your offers or agreeing to your terms is not the same. I repeat, saying yes to you is way different than making the move himself. So, if he wants to go on a date with you, he’ll ask. If he wants to get physical with you, he’ll kiss you. If he wants to pursue a relationship with you, he’ll bring up being exclusive. If he’s not the one making the moves, he’s not interested. It’s a hard pill to swallow, I know. But there really are no ifs, ands or buts when it comes to this.
He’s actually interested
This sounds silly, I know, but hear me out. If he’s interested in you, he’s interested in you. He wants to know about your life, get to know your friends, meet your family. He’ll remember important things you have planned and ask about them. An interested guy acts interested. It’s pretty simple, I know. But everyone needs to be reminded of this every now and then. Love and lust can do crazy things to our sensibilities!
You don’t question it
Ready for another tough pill to swallow? You already know if he’s interested. If you’re wondering at all, it means that he’s not. The biggest and best tool a woman has is her intuition. You just need to trust yours. If you’re shaky in your relationship, it’s because something’s wrong. If you’re questioning his feelings for you, it’s probably because you should be! Never doubt yourself, girl! Not to get all spirit guide on you, but you already have the answers. You just have to let yourself hear them.
If reading this made you feel better about your man, great! But, if it gave you some doubts, don’t stress. That just means the perfect guy is right around the corner and figuring out that you’re not with him right now is actually a step in the right direction!