How to shut down love life haters

hatersIt’s no secret that I’m a fan of the Real Housewives franchise. Some of my best friends have been Housewives and some of my favorite clients have come from Housewives. It’s hard for me to pick a favorite show from the franchise because they’re all so different and great. But, I can very much tell you what I like most about any of the shows in the franchise and that’s watching the Housewives families grow and develop. And no one’s kids have bloomed as much as Yolanda Hadid’s. Watching her kids Gigi, Bella, and Anwar grow up and become successful models, following in their proud mommy’s footsteps, is a real treat. What’s even better? Watching them turn into total badasses!

Recently, Gigi tweeted a picture of her super hunky boyfriend Zayn. In response, a hater tweeted, “Practice how to walk properly instead of having a new bf every 2 weeks.” Um, gross. I can’t stand slut shaming. And apparently, neither can Gigi. She wrote back, “I’ve dated 3 guys in 3 yrs, hun. My walk can always get better; I hope the unrelated bitterness in ur heart can too.” Dang! That’s a real burn! Gigi shut down her love life hater perfectly and I wanted to be sure you knew how to, too. Here’s how.

Stick to the facts

The hater said that Gigi had a new boyfriend every two weeks. Of course that’s not true. By pointing out exactly who and when she was in other relationships, Gigi made the hater’s exaggeration seem kooky and mean-spirited. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with having a new boyfriend every two weeks if that’s what works for your life. But, that’s not what works for Gigi’s life and she made that clear. If someone’s bashing your romantic choices by exaggerating them or making claims about your man that are hyperbolic, don’t stand for it. Calmly correct them and force them to stick to the facts.

Shine a mirror on them

Another thing that Gigi did that I freaking love is not insulting the hater. Instead, she just reflected the negativity the hater was projecting back at her. There were no new cut downs initiated. Just a wish for the hater’s hate to lessen. That’s classy! So, instead of getting nasty with whomever is raining on your love parade, just tell them that you’re not sure why they’re being so negative about something that makes you so happy, but you truly hope the darkness in their heart clears up. It’s really nice up on your level, so why sink down to theirs, right?

Keep your boo out of it

I wouldn’t have blamed Gigi if she tagged Zayn and got him and his fans involved in this Twitter battle. But, I think it’s really rad that she didn’t. She handled it by herself and kept just as many cooks in the kitchen as there needed to be, not too many. Looping in your man and having him join the battle can make it messy really quickly. Keep it clean and end it as soon as possible by handling it directly yourself. Staring down a hater solo can be scary, but you’ll be glad you did when it’s in the rearview mirror.

May we all grow up to be as fierce as Gigi Hadid one day, right?