3 Things you’re not doing but should to improve your sex life

Let me guess. Your sex life is great, but it could be better, right? I think everyone feels that way. Sex is super, but very few people feel like true experts. From my conversations with friends and clients, it seems like even when people want to improve their sex live, they’re not quite sure how to. They think you have to be open to crazy different sex or at least really flexible to switch things up and make an improvement. Well, I’m here to tell you that’s not the case at all. I have three very easy things that could improve anyone’s sex life. And you don’t have to be able to put your feet behind your head to make them work.

Get inspiration

Take a look around the internet or, better yet, around the romance section of your favorite bookstore, for a little sex inspiration. Watching pornography or reading romance can get your imagination soaring with new things your boo and you could do. I know that many women are creeped out by porn and I get that. I will say, not all porn is demeaning to women and if you do your research, you can find some great stuff. But, if the whole idea feels gross to you, skip it and focus on romance books. They’re typically very female friendly and sex positive. If you watch or read these inspirational materials as a couple, it’s essentially a new kind of foreplay. So, you’re already on the path to at least one really great round of sex.


As with any part of a relationship, communication is key. Talk to your boo about what you want out of your sex life and figure out what your partner wants too. If you both are working toward better sex, it’s much more likely to happen. There’s no way for your partner to know you want to improve without you straight up saying it. And, I’m a big believer in talking during sex. Let your boo know what feels good and what you want more of. You don’t have to be the sexiest dirty talker in the world to do this. Just a few indications of what you want and like will do wonders with helping your partner crank up the satisfaction in the bedroom.

Hit the vibe

You have to know how to take care of yourself before you can take care of your relationship. That goes for every aspect of life and love, but especially sex. You need to know what makes you feel good so you can help your partner achieve that. And there’s really only one way to find out… having sex with yourself. So, pick up that vibrator and get to work. An added bonus is that the more orgasms you have, the more orgasms your body wants. Your body can forget how good sex feels when there’s been a bit of a drought. But, if you turn on the faucet, you could be in the mood for a lot more sex with your partner, which will of course lead to a better sex life.

We all get into sex ruts and just a few little tweaks can get you back on the road to a really great sex life.