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How texting and email can affect your dating life

We are living in a digital world, and it can make dating and flirting pretty treacherous at times. While this has opened up endless opportunities to meet, connect and stay in touch with others, it has also opened up entirely new possibilities of overstepping boundaries and embarrassing moments. How do you date and flirt while making sure you aren’t jeopardizing your budding relationship? Let’s break it down.

Texting

Texting is an amazing tool! It allows you to connect with people all the time in a way that is not intrusive. When I started dating, you had to suck it up and call him (well, call him back). The endless ringing phone was nerve wracking. What if he didn’t answer? Was he avoiding you? Do you leave a message, or call back? Texting eliminates that stress because you can send your message off without worrying about interrupting anything. The problem with texts? They are one-sided and have no tone or inflection. How many times have you had a conversation via text where it was completely misinterpreted (although you knew what you meant)? Sarcasm and humor can take disastrous turns when you are just getting to know someone. Here are three quick tips to texting while flirting and dating:

  1. Keep it short and flirty. Nothing heavy should go in a text. Ever. Texting in the beginning stages of a relationship should be limited to fun banter or confirmation of plans. That’s it. Everything else should be said in person.
  2. No naked pictures. Ever. Sure you can send off a shot of you smiling or your bedroom eyes, but keep all body parts to yourself. I don’t even suggest sending X-rated shots between married couples. You never know where they could end up, and unless you are a reality star, it will not benefit you.
  3. Don’t expect an immediate reply. Just because he didn’t write you back within five seconds doesn’t mean he isn’t interested. Not everyone is tethered to their phones, and a little time between texts is completely normal.

Email

Email is another fabulous way to stay connected — and flirt! However, the same issue arises as with texting, as you can not insert tone and inflection with the written word, no matter how many emoticons and exclamation points you use. At some point, you have to get on a call and hear each other’s voices! However, email is a great way to stay in touch! Just keep in mind the following:

  1. Know when to stop the chain for the day. It should never go on indefinitely. At some point you need to say “Talk to you later” or “See you soon.” Preferably before the conversation jumped the shark.
  2. Check your “To:” field carefully. How many emails have you gotten that weren’t meant for you? It happens all the time, especially with most mail programs “guessing” who you want to email after you type the first letter. Just double check.
  3. Do not expecting an immediate reply. Just like text messages, it is tempting to expect someone to reply immediately. Keep in mind that he has a life and might be at work. Give him 24 hours.
  4. Always remember that your email can be shared with the click of a button. The power of the forward is immense. Never send anything that you wouldn’t mind being shared.

Never ever use your work email to flirt. You don’t own it, and your employer can very easily access your very private messages. Use your personal phone to send messages — even free email accounts can be recorded real time.

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5 Responses to How texting and email can affect your dating life

  1. Who has really given up? says:

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  2. The Haunted Soul says:

    Good afternoon matchmaker assistant.
    ATTN: Match maker asst.

    Please make sure Patti gets this important message.
    Why is it okay when you’re engaged to be married again & you are
    swingers & your future homo-sexual man converted to bi-sexual, (man of your dreams) is at work & we have a glory hole installed in our secret swingers club house, for me to have men come over & suck their cocks through the glory hole without any personal intimate or emotional connection to suck complete strangers dicks through this non-personal cock slutting glory hole. I don’t think so & I don’t have sexual addiction problems. I must admit I’m just a slut whore & when I run out of Craigslist filthy whores at 3:00 or 4:00 am in the morning, I just wake up my paid personal assistants and fuck them until I find another slut. If they are not available I just as usual hire a male or female whore. What ever my man feels like sucking on cock or pussy. I think these days because he was once gay he prefers cock. Anyway getting back to my point is sucking strangers dicks through our glory hole while my gay-man (happy-man) is at work cheating? I am also a celebrity & need to keep this on the down low as if this gets out my future will be circumcised.

    Thanks & I’m looking forward to hearing what the monogamous match-maker has to say. Please share this with your fellow family & co-workers on what their opinion is. Thanks & may you all find the men of your dreams. 😉
    Ps, could you look up in Patti’s personal dicktionary find out the true meaning of monogamous.
    Signed, I Believe?

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  4. Jackie says:

    I have a quick question, what if he never relays to a text, but brings it up or responds when you see each other?

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