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The Number One Reason A Woman Might Not Orgasm With A Man

orgasmA couple of years ago, I was with this beautiful woman.

She was sexy. She was great. She was dynamic.
But, in her 39 years on this planet she had never achieved an orgasm with a man.
She had no problem climaxing when she masturbated.
She could use electronic toys or vibrators and finish that way too.

But, when it came down to being with a man, she was never able to have an orgasm, no matter how hard she tried.

I want to emphasize the word TRIED.

I’ve met a lot of women over the course of my lifetime that have had exactly the same problem. Just like the woman I was with, they’ve been able to masturbate have had no issues achieving a climax on their own. But with a partner…

When it comes to having orgasms with men, many women face issues.

I’ve got to tell you, if you are a woman and you have had this problem you should know, right now, that it isn’t your fault.

That’s right. Get angry, get bitter, get pissed off.

You are not a bad lover, you are one of many women who cannot orgasm with a man because you have trained your body not to.

For the majority of women who have had trouble with this, it is usually because they get wrapped up inside their own heads.

They cannot stop thinking about the fact that they’ve never climaxed with a man. They think about why they can’t cum, or how hard it is to finish with a man, or how close they’ve been in the past.

They obsess about it, and still they’re never been able to achieve an orgasm. No matter how badly they want to this with a man, to be able to share that with him, it has just not happened. They’ve definitely convinced themselves that there is something wrong with them and that it will never happen.

The woman that I was talking about before, she had no patience at all.
I’d go down on her and after about a minute she’d lose her patience and say, “Let’s just move on to sex.”

Every, single time we got close she would lose her patience. She did want to put time into it because of course, on her own she was able to get herself off quickly. So, she would become impatient when it came down to being with a man that way.

I would play with her, I’d even have her show me what to do, but when she didn’t cum quickly, she would want to stop. She had trained herself to lose patience and she ended up standing in her own way because she would not allow herself to let go.

If you really want to make this happen, you need to be patient. You cannot expect yourself to get there quickly, especially if you’ve never been able to do this with a man before. It’s not just going to show up.

You’re going to have to allow yourself to go through the process.
You have to get out of your own head. Give yourself as much time as you need, if it takes the 35 or 40 minutes, then that’s long it takes.

You have to have a man who’s patient, who’s willing to explore, willing to take the time with you because that’s what it’s all about.
It’s about relaxing the brain and easing the mind. You have to get out of your head and into your body.

Don’t think so much about why it’s not happening; just think that it is going to happen.
If you lose an orgasm, it’s because you got into your own head.

So, when that happens, just literally say to yourself,
“I’m in my head again, just let go and allow it to happen. I’ll find it. I’ll get it back.” Just have fun with it.

Most importantly, it’s all about you. It’s all about you just relaxing. It’s all about you allowing your body to take control.

Really, it’s just about enjoying your body with a man. You have to find someone who’s willing to go there with you. Just allow him to touch you and play with you and show him what you like. If you don’t cum right away, don’t worry about it. Don’t think about whether or not he’s getting bored, or that this isn’t fun for him.

When you find a proud man that wants to please you, allow him to do exactly that. Allow him to take you down that path. Let him to help you find that pleasure, that experience that you’ve always craved.

The orgasms are there. They’re waiting. They want to come out. You just need to be more patient with yourself. Get out of your head, take a deep breath, and say, “It’s going to happen, I’m going to allow it to happen”.