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Divorced men: A girl’s best kept secret

By now I’m sure you’ve heard, I have a boyfriend! His name is David and he’s everything I was looking for. Kind, cute, fun, devoted, and divorced. Yep, divorced. Why? Because divorced men are a girl’s best kept secret. Do your research but don’t discount a guy because he’s divorced. You might even want to give him some bonus points. It worked for me. I really can’t wait for you all to get to know David this season. So excited!

Here’s a few things to keep in mind about starting a new flame with “the divorced guy”:


A divorced guy isn’t going to hide behind that lame defense of being a commitmentphobe. He’s taken the marriage plunge before, so you know he’s capable of commitment and isn’t one of the George Clooney types who will never settle down. His first relationship didn’t work and that might mean he’s a little more cautious with commitment this time around. That’s a good thing for you. You want to be with someone who is careful and gives your relationship a lot of thought before committing fully. Note: He still has to be willing to commit eventually.


I don’t think men are animals, but there’s just no better to say this: Divorced men come already housebroken. Another woman has done the hard work of teaching him to put the seat down, call when he’s late, and tread lightly during a bad week.


Divorced men have been around the block and I mean that in the best way. They have experience at the relationship rodeo and that can really benefit what you two have together. A man who has been married before is more likely to know what a healthy relationship looks like, what a failing one looks like, and how to tell the difference. He knows which mistakes can end a relationship and now that he’s made a few of them, he has learned a few lessons in love. In my experience, divorced men are really eager to do it right the second time around.

A small word of warning

I’m not saying that every divorced dude is a Prince Charming in disguise. You need to do your research—on him, his last relationship, and your compatibility—to be sure he’s a fit. Especially be wary of marriages that ended because he cheated. I’m not saying it’s an automatic deal breaker but it’s tough for an old dog to learn a new trick, especially when the trick is monogamy.