Category Archives: Sex

Why you must pay attention to the red flags in dating and sex

My mother taught me early on to pay attention to the red flags. She said, “Emily, the issues you have with a man on the third date you will have forever.” I didn’t always want to believe her, but the more I’ve dated the more I realize she was right. You need to pay attention to the red flags in dating from the very beginning. Real life isn’t a romantic comedy. If you hated a person in the beginning, you’re probably going to hate them in the end. It’s easy to ignore the red flags waving in the background when your new love interest is just so darn attractive and easy to talk to. It’s even easier to make up excuses, like you’re just having fun so it doesn’t matter if he’s an alcoholic, cheater, or a gigantic man-child. Read more

10 tips for giving a great blow job

top 10 tips for giving a great blow job
I know, you already know how to give a blow job. I used to think so too when I first started my career as a sexologist. Then I talked to hundreds of men and women about their preferences and techniques. I was still pretty convinced I knew how to perform like a champ, but then I met Conner Habib, a gay man who happens to do porn (listen to my podcast with Conner Habib here). If anyone knows how to give a blow job it’s going to be a gay porn star. Here’s some of my advice, Conner’s advice, and all the advice I’ve received from my Sex with Emily listeners combined into one glorious blow job. Read more

Never had a sex toy? It’s time because these will rock your world

Emily Morse demos the rabbit
Part of my job description as a sex expert is to try all the new sex toys so you don’t have to. I take on this burden of testing new sexy toys so you can have lots of orgasms. You’re welcome. This week I went to a sex toy conference in Las Vegas called the International Lingerie Show. Here are some of the gems I came home with: Read more

End the fairy tale fantasy

end the fairy tale fantasy
A little while back, I met someone. Online of all places. Despite my jaded view of internet dating, this summer while my son was at camp, I met a woman I liked. A lot. Not because she was hot, which she was, but because when we looked at each other, when we kissed, there was something…electric. Special. In the years since my divorce, I haven’t felt like this before. Read more

Simultaneous Orgasms, anyone?

womans hand grabs the bed during multiple orgasms
In a perfect world, couples would make love everyday, each session would end with simultaneous orgasms and then you’d watch your mutually favorite television show. But we know that’s not going to happen- at least the simultaneous orgasm part. Because, in reality, he’s thinking, “Please, let me get through the next seven minutes without ejaculating,” while she’s thinking, “Please, just this once let me have an orgasm during intercourse.” Not to mention the guys who also have a hard time orgasming during sex. (That happens far more frequently than you think.) So what can you do to make sure you both get the orgasms and pleasure you want (simultaneous orgasms preferred, but not required)? Read more

Why women should make the first move

When was the last time you initiated sex? If you had to think about it for longer than 5 seconds it’s probably been awhile. Well, here’s some news: the biggest complaint I hear from men is that their girlfriend or wife doesn’t initiate sex enough, or at all. It’s not entirely your fault.  Many women are taught from a young age to have the guy take the lead, pay for the date, plan the date, open all the doors, and make the first phone call. He probably even asked you out on the first date. It would follow then that many women don’t feel it’s acceptable to initiate sex. Ever. Read more