#AskPatti: Break up advice, friends who hate your partner, my matchmaker fave & more!

Hello, hello! Happy first #AskPatti of spring! I hope you all are off to a fantastic start of the season. Are you guys in shock at how quickly 2014 is racing by? I mean, we’re basically 25% done with the year! I can’t believe it. Wasn’t it New Year’s Eve, like yesterday? Anyway, I can’t deny that another week has passed, which means that it’s time for another #AskPatti. Here we go!

I know this is a joke question Ian, but I just want to talk about life after a break up for a second. Break ups are the absolute worst. They suck. There’s no other way around it. And yeah, there is life after love, but not right away. Immediately after the break up, you’re going to feel like garbage. And that’s fine. Just keep an eye on yourself. If you’ve been in the dumps for four week straight with absolutely no sign of improvement, it’s time to talk to a professional. You’re past the point of the break up blues and into depression territory.

Clear communication. Just tell your friend that you appreciate the concern and know that s/he’s just looking out for you best interest, but you really love your partner and you’re going to stick with the relationship. Your friend can either get on board and shut the eff up or take a giant step back from life. Those really are the only two choices.

Everyone deserves love! I get to help people find love for a living! I can’t think of much better than that!