Hey single girls! This one’s for you. If you’re sitting there wondering why you’re single, keep on reading. I’ll tell you! It’s because you’re not doing these five very simple things. If you do all five of my recommendations below, I’ll guarantee you find yourself with a great man in a great relationship in now time. So, let’s get to it.
Stop spending nights at home watching TV solo. That’s definitely not a way to meet a guy. Also, it’s not a way to make yourself an interesting prospect to a man. Think about it. Would you be excited to hang out with a dude whose only accomplishment from the past six months is watching 30 Rock in its entirety? No way! You want someone who does fun things and has compelling stuff to talk about. So does every man! So, get out there and volunteer, find a hobby, read in coffee shops. Do a lot more than just your job and find things that help you unwind that are also enriching. You’ll be happier and you’ll be more attractive to any guy!
Ask for setups
Don’t be shy about your desire to find a guy. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about! And other people can help you. All you have to do is ask them. When you ask, be specific about what you’re looking for. List your five non-negotiables and then ask friends, family and any new folks you meet to keep you in mind if they know anybody who works within those constraints. And be clear that you’re not expecting them to vet dudes to be total soul mate matches. There’s no accounting for chemistry. So, you won’t take offense to any set ups or put too much stock in any, either. As long as a guy hits your must-haves, you’re down to date!
Fall in love
A lot of women come to me asking me to set them up with the future most important person in their life. I always tell them that they already know that person…it’s themselves. You are the most important person in your life now and always. So, you should fall in love with yourself. Take time every day to tell yourself how great you are and be thankful for all of the amazing gifts you have. I know this is super cheesy, but just trust me and do it. Talk to yourself in the mirror, write daily affirmations or keep a gratitude journal. Do whatever it takes to love yourself because that’s step one in getting someone else to love you. After all, if you’re not in love with yourself, how can you expect anyone else to be?
Get a makeover
I’m not talking about a physical makeover, I’m talking about making over your online dating profile. And do a complete overhaul. Get professional pictures taken, ask your friends for help figuring out how to sell yourself and experiment with different combinations of text and images to see what works. You really need to treat your online dating profile like you’re a marketing executive looking at a new ad campaign. You want it to be as accurate and compelling as possible. And before you argue that what you have now is pretty good, let me tell you that it’s not. If you’re single, something about it isn’t working. So, change it up!
Put your life first
You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of anybody else. And most men are looking for caretakers when they’re looking for long-term partners. They may not overtly say it or even know it, but they are. And it makes sense. If a man wants kids, he wants to have them with a woman who’s just as capable as he is in terms of providing for the family. If he’s looking for someone to grow old with, he wants to be sure this person can take care of him if he needs care before she does. It totally makes sense. And the best way to show that you’re a good caretaker is by taking care of yourself. Get eight hours of sleep. Eat whole foods. Exercise regularly. See doctors when you need to. Meditate. Don’t let stress overwhelm you. You need to put yourself first, which is really tough to do. I struggle with putting my career before my health, especially in terms of sleeping enough. So, I feel you on how big of an ask this is. But, you have to do it if you want a man. And, you should only seriously consider men who take care of themselves. Everything I said above should apply to your long-term partner, too!
Alright, single girls, start making your to do lists. You’ve got a lot of work ahead of you. It’s work that will definitely pay off and make you happier in the meantime, though. So, how can you argue with that?