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5 Signs that he’s a Keeper

Excited couple When do you really know that you’ve met “the one”? Is it something that happens over night or something that takes time to figure out? Unfortunately, there is no easy Facebook quiz to take that will give you the answer, but there are five signs that may be able help you realize if he’s the one or not.

1. You are good enough

He’s “the one” if he loves you for you. He admires every aspect of you, from your best to your worst. He is proud of the woman you are and takes great pride in admitting you are his. If life was just as Disney portrayed it, he would never use his 3 wishes to change a single thing about you. Your accomplishments and hard work amaze him to a point where you are the apple of his eye and there is no one else that can do what you do. You are extraordinary in every way and he makes you feel it.

2. He has the qualities that you’re looking for

Before you get into a relationship, it is important to look for a man who posses your most needed qualities. But, as you grow further into the relationship, the “cupcake” phase diminishes and you shortly start to see the person for who they really are. Do they still posses those qualities? It is important to take time to write down the most important qualities you’re looking for in a partner, from most important to least, and check off which ones he has. Does he have most of them or none at all? Are they deal breakers or are you flexible? If he has all, or most, of them he’s a keeper. Make sure to not lower your standards for love. There’s someone out there that posses the qualities you’re looking for.

3. He rarely expresses jealousy

He is comfortable with himself, but also comfortable with you. He is not jealous and he fully trusts you. If he realizes another man admiring you from a distance, he takes it as flattery because he knows you are his. He is not worried you’ll stray and he’s man enough to notice your beauty. He praises you for it, but also doesn’t feel threatened when someone else does too. He doesn’t question your loyalty and has confidence in the love you share.

4. He’s there when you need him: No if, ands, or buts about it

The second you express a time of weakness or struggle he is there to pick up the pieces. He is selfless and will do anything to make sure to support you in times of need. He is your shoulder to cry on and he doesn’t hesitate to be. He truly wants to be there for you and brighten your day any way he can.

5. He’s your biggest fan

When you accomplish something, he is the first one you want to call. He is the person who encourages you to be the best you can be and to achieve your greatest potential. He never puts you down and constantly expresses to you how talented, intelligent, strong, and diligent you really are. He never thinks twice about your potential and is always willing to give you that extra little “oomph” to get you where you need to be. He only wants and sees the best for you and will cheer you on all the way to the finish line.