If you’ve been into a drug store recently, you know that Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. And that Cadbury makes Valentine’s Day candy too. I mean, that’s genius. Why didn’t this happen earlier? Anyway, it’s pretty common knowledge that Valentine’s Day can be hell for all of the single people out there. But, it can also be pretty terrible for those of us in relationships. I’ve had some very good relationships turn sour because of a bad Valentine’s Day. To make sure that won’t happen to you, here are some ways to tell if your V-Day is going to be good.
Have you told him what you want?
I know, I know. Spelling out what you want doesn’t sound romantic. But, trust me, it’s more romantic than getting in a fight, crying into a box of Godiva and watching Dunston Checks In by yourself. (I told you I had some really bad Valentine’s Days. I wasn’t lying!) You don’t need to spell out every single detail of the night, but it’s a good idea to have a conversation with your guy and give him a hint of the ballpark that would make you happy. If you’re expecting a lavish dinner out with roses and a limo, let him know that! If you’d rather stay in and watch a movie (Do yourself a favor and don’t pick Dunston Checks In.) tell him that too. You don’t have to get too specific. Just let him know the realm of your expectations for the day and you’ll have a much smoother Valentine’s Day.
Were you honest?
When you told him what you were hoping for on Valentine’s Day, were you completely honest? Are you hoping he disregards what you said and surprises you and sweeps you off your feet? Get real, lady. If you straight up told your man one thing and want him to do something different, you’re setting him up for a big, fat fail. Go tell him the truth. Expecting a fancy surprise isn’t a smart way to go into an already fraught holiday.
Have you asked him what he wants?
The Valentine’s Day street runs both ways, sister. Your man could have big ideas for Valentine’s Day and might be expecting something romantic out of you. I know it’s typically the man who does all of the hustling on V-Day, but I’ve known some guys who were total romantics and wanted to be swept off their little toes too. So, be sure in your conversation you figure out what would make the day romantic for him too and get to doing it!
If you answered no to any of these questions, it’s not too late. Get in touch with your dude and start sorting things out. You can save Valentine’s Day! Good luck and happy Valentine’s Day!