Category Archives: Relationships

Advice on everything related to love and relationships.

Are lubricants safe for your sexual health?

A girlfriend of mine recently came to brunch horrified. She told me that the night before, during sex, her boyfriend asked her if she had any lube. As she told me the story, I could tell she was upset, but I couldn't figure out why. “I mean, me? Lube? Come on! Like I’m the type of girl to have that,” she shrieked. Apparently, my friend thought lube was gross and, she told me later, unsafe. I’m not sure where she got that idea, but I thought I’d write about it here, just in case this is what a lot of women think. Read more

Girl next door vs. mean girl: What gets you farther?

The girl next door vs. the mean girl. Round 9,167. Ding, ding, ding. Fight on. Doesn't it seem like these two personas are always pitted against each other? I’m always getting questions about what type of women men are most attracted to. Nice girls? Mean girls? Shy girls? Aggressive women? Maternal women? Bitches? And my answer is yes. Always yes. I’m a firm believer that there’s a lid for every pot. So there’s a guy for every type of girl. That being said, there are some general things I like to think about when deciding between the girl next door vs. the mean girl debate. Read more

What should your number be?

What’s the perfect number? SeekingArrangement.com recently came out with a study saying that 10 is the magic number. Per this study, both men and women want their partner to have slept with 10 other people before them. Any more would be considered promiscuous, and any less would seem inexperienced. I’m not quite sure I’m sold on this number. And even though I recognize that sex is a huge deal in a relationship, I’m not convinced that the number of people you’ve slept with previously should have any bearing on your current relationship. Here’s what I think. Read more

Clothed moves you can do to get his attention

Foreplay doesn’t happen just in the bedroom. The entire date, starting from the minute you say hello, is foreplay. I like to think of it as fore-foreplay. Is anyone else using that word? Should I copyright it? In the meantime, here are five fore-foreplay moves you can try. They work when you’re fully clothed and fully in public. And I guarantee they will get your man fully in the mood. Read more

Jessica Biel goes Timberlake

I’ll admit it. I have a crush on Justin Timberlake, and I think most women are with me. He’s just undeniably swoon-worthy. It all started when I saw Justin and Britney Spears wearing those matching denim numbers. Anyone else remember that? Sure, that twinsie head-to-toe denim look was a fashion disaster, but it was really, really sweet. And it showed that this guy wasn’t just looks and swagger, he was a relationship man too. And now this crush-worthy dude is officially taken by an equally crush-worthy lady, Jessica Biel. Here’s why this is a relationship I can get behind: Read more

The latest on divorce rates: What splits people apart these days?

You’ve probably heard people say that half of all marriages end in divorce. And if you look at the tabloids and read about celebrity marriages, it seems like it’s even more than that. It's actually far less, but divorce is prevalent. After walking to the altar and making a life-long commitment to each other, what’s splitting so many people apart? Every marriage and every divorce is different, of course, but I’m guessing that most of the splits have to do with some of these factors. Read more