#AskPatti: Mixed signals, long distance & meeting the kiddos

Ask Patti Stanger
Hello, hello! Reading your #AskPatti questions on Twitter is a real highlight of my week. I wish I could answer them all! Alas, I’m just one woman with one keyboard and one really busy schedule. So I can’t do all of them. But, I am going to try to answer as many as I can this week. Welcome to #AskPatti: Rapid Fire Edition! Read more

The Happy Sad

facebook relationship status changed to single
Well here we are folks, October. In most cities, when the seasons change they are usually marked by the turning of leaves, cooler weather or people wearing more layers. In West Hollywood, the change of seasons is marked by gay men switching from tank tops to deep v-neck t-shirts, beaches to tanning beds and starvation to eating. It brings me great pleasure to know that all the ab-flaunting guys in the city get a break and can finally eat a meal with out fear of an impromptu pool party! But just as I begin to breath a sigh of relief, several status updates on Facebook begin to string together a different story. “Is now Single” is the status updates on a few walls. Read more

“Men don’t like making commitments!”

woman upset about her man not committing
I keep hearing this ridiculous statement spouted by bitter women all around the globe, and it drives me nuts.  If men don’t like commitment, why are so many men in a committed relationship? I hate blanket stereotypes like this one. In all my years as a dating and relationship expert, the only women I hear say these kinds of things have been hurt in the past. Most of them have a grudge against men in general. Read more

How do you know if he’s a keeper or a sleeper?

Is he a keeper or a sleeper?
I was out to dinner with a few of my girlfriends this week and I was explaining to one of my single friends my criteria for knowing if a man is a keeper. Another friend was listening in and said, “Patti, what you’re describing isn’t a keeper! He sounds like a sleeper!” It’s true that the criteria I talk about most for identifying a long-term guy are kinda snoozy. I mean, financial philosophies, spiritual beliefs and five-year goals aren’t exactly the plots of action adventure movies. But, of course there’s a difference between a keeper and a sleeper. Your forever guy has to be more than a checklist. He has to make your heart sing! Or rap! Or beatbox! Whatever your heart does when it’s happy. So, if your guy has all of the elements of a keeper, but you’re not sure if he’s really the one, here are some essential (and not boring) things to consider before committing to him. Read more

How Can I Make My Husband Swoon Like He Used To?

Welcome to Ask Patti! My weekly advice column where I answer your questions. If you have a question, just tweet me with the #AskPatti hashtag or click on that cute little widget in the right rail. See it? Just a little lower. Ok, you got it. Cute, right? Click on it and it totally sets you up to tweet at me. All right, on to this week’s question. Great question. Even the fact that you’re looking for ways to spice up your marriage shows me that you’re a great partner to your husband and really put effort into maintaining your relationship, which I like to hear. Relationships are about way more than falling in love. They’re about staying in love, which takes work. So, here are three tips I have for getting the excitement and intimacy back into your marriage. Read more

Is he really Prince Charming?

kill the idea of prince charming a move forward with your life
Does this scenario sound familiar to you… You’ve met this man. He’s handsome, charming, caring, and successful. It’s like he jumped right out of your dreams. He seems so perfect. Prince Charming finally found you! So how comes a month later it all goes wrong? Read more