When it’s OK to have sex on the first date

I run my business by a few key rules and I don’t bend them. Like, at all. Always have operated like that and always will! One of my major rules is no sex before monogamy. Nothing goes in any hole until you two have had a serious conversation about exclusivity. If you’re looking for love, you have to abide by that rule. Plain and simple. But, there are a few times when it’s OK to have sex on the first date. Here they are.

When you’re not looking for love

Even though human are programmed to want love and affection in their lives, we don’t always want to be in a long-term relationship. Sometimes, you just need to get yours. And I’m fine with that. If you’re not on the husband hunt and are just looking for a good time, then go for it, girl. My no sex before monogamy rule only applies if you’re looking for true love. If that’s not your goal, by all means, ignore my love-finding philosophies.

When it’s not a first date

Not every relationship starts as simply as boy meets girl then boy asks girl out on first date. Relationships can be complicated and sometimes first dates are a long time coming. This could be someone you’ve been in a close friendship with for years and are now taking a first step toward romance. Or maybe it’s an ex that’s resurfaced and you’re ready to try it again. If you have a long emotional history and truly feeling like you know and trust the person, you can have sex on your first “date” as long as…

You’ve discussed monogamy

That’s right. Assuming you’re giving this relationship a try because you’re hoping it’s more than a one-night stand, you have to talk about monogamy here, too. Even if it feels obvious that he’s not seeing anyone else or you know that he’s completely available, you still need to talk about it. Confirm that you both are on the same page before anything serious happens between the sheets.

Sex on first dates happen and that’s totally fine, in some instances. Just be sure you’re in one of those situations before you do it or you might get hurt or disappointed.