Single girls, let me say that I feel you in a major way. The single struggle is so real. When you’ve been single for a while, you can lose hope and get very frustrated. Dates can feel like a total waste of time! I’m here to tell you they’re not a waste of time at all. Even the bad ones. Actually, especially the bad ones aren’t wastes of your time. In fact, I think you should try to go on bad dates. Yes, try to set up bad dates for yourself. You read that correctly. Here’s why. Read more
You’ve gone on a couple good dates with a guy. You like him and are excited about the potential you two have, but you’re not actually dating yet. It’s a fun period of a relationship to be in. So much fantasizing about the future, flirting and fun. It’s one of my favorite stages of the dating game! With that all said, it’s also one of the most stressful moments in dating game, too. There’s a lot that can change on a dime, feelings are uncertain and it seems like one little mistake can bring the whole future relationship tumbling down. And that’s why texting feels so high stakes! It’s tough to figure out what’s over texting, what’s under texting, what’s the right thing to send and what’s the wrong thing. Well, let me help you out. Here are some guidelines. Read more
If you read this site enough, you’ll know that I’m basically obsessed with open and honest communication when it comes to relationships. To make it work with a partner, you need to talk about everything. And I really mean everything. The good, the bad, and the ugly! And place special emphasis on talking about those last two—the bad and the ugly. Because that’s when communication is really important. All of that is true for relationships, but the communication stuff doesn’t really hold water when it comes to dating. In a first date scenario, there is no communication. Read more
Attitude is everything when it comes to, well, everything! Your perspective on your life is your life. If you think everything’s dandy, then everything actually is dandy. If you take a look at your life and all you can see is that poop swirl emoji, then your life is one big giant swirl of poop. With this in mind, I’ve been doing some secret sleuthing with my single girlfriends during our hangouts. I’ve been watching to see if my friends who are positive about dating have better dates and if the ones who are negative about dates have worse dates. My conclusions weren’t surprising, at least not to me. The ones with bad attitudes had many more bad dates than my friends with good attitudes. Read more
If you’re single and looking for a boyfriend or husband, as many of my clients and friends are, I say you’ve got to be going on all cylinders at all times. Dating is basically a full time job and you’re not going to get anywhere if you treat it as anything less. I encourage all the single and looking people in my life to be very no retreat, no surrender with meeting new men and dating. But, there are times in all of our lives when it’s OK to take a break from dating. Here are a few of them. Read more
This might be a surprising thing for a sexpert to say, but there are few things more satisfying than a good old-fashioned spring cleaning! Sure, there’s nothing sexy about 6 hours of concentrated decluttering, but that’s not really why we do it. Every spring, we clear out the old junk in our lives, both literal and figurative, to make way for something better! Read more
