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Why swipe dating is a complete illusion

It’s really getting kind of sad.

I know people who’ve been single for years and years and years and literally go out on date after date after date and get ghosted all the time.

I know people who are dating six or seven people at a time, they’ve got a roster, so why settle for one? Let them all compete against one another and if someone drops out, just go and swipe somebody else.

I don’t know about you, but if I go above to the top and I look at the “boy meet girl moments” and the full-on committing to somebody, you finally realize…

After all the dating…

After all the relationships…

After all the self help books…

After all the therapy sessions…

You’ve Actually Met Your Equal

You’ve met somebody who’s really amazing who you’ve never met before.

Sign me up for the above situation.

Because I’ve done the swiping.

I’ve met the people, the women who don’t look like their pictures.

I’ve had the endless text conversations that go nowhere.

I’ve done all that.

And if you ask me, I’m over all of that.

I’m Not Going to Swipe for My Best Friend

Because isn’t that what we’re all looking for?

I don’t care about one-night stands. I’ve had literally millions of orgasms in my life, and you know what? They’re overrated.

I want a soul-gasm. A soul-to-soul connection.

I want somebody I can create magic in this world with.

I’m tired of sitting alone at night on my couch watching TV or staring at the Internet, swiping or looking at for my woman that I’m looking for.

So sign me up. I’ve never been a swiper. I’ve never really been into it. I’m all about the magic above.

Of course, I started dating before there was even swiping. But even if I was, I don’t think I’d be into it.
Because the Thing About Swipe Dating is…

It’s a complete illusion.

Because when you think about it, what does swipe dating really make you believe?

That there’s no such thing as “the One?” Because there’s the Many. The many people you could possibly match with and meet and possibly date.

So you’re always looking for something better, and you’re not finding it.

That’s why you feel perfectly fine ghosting someone you met on Tinder or Bumble. Who cares? There are a million other people out there you could match with.

And then at the end of the day, do you ever find what you truly desire? Or do you find yourself alone for the five hundredth night in a row because you’ve basically treated people as these disposable things you can literally just throw away?

It’s Time to Stop Swiping & Start Falling in Love

So, it’s your choice. To commit or not to commit, that’s the modern day question.

But as far as I’m concerned, I’m going to tell you to start looking at people not as disposable commodities and start looking at them as, well, people.

Start dating with the mindset of “Wow, I’ve never met somebody like you before. I’m fully committed to getting to know you, and I have no interest in dating anybody else and I’m fully committed to seeing where this relationship can go.”

Because that’s really what it used to be like. You go out on a date and after an hour or two, you’re in.

That, to me, is so much more romantic than sitting around and telling people you found each other on Bumble or Tinder and after going out with hundreds of people at the same time you finally decided to swipe on each other.

Let’s bring romance back into the world of dating.