What Gay and Lesbian Sex Dreams REALLY Mean

Girl on girl action may be exciting for a guy, but when we of the fairer sex dream about it, it can be a bit unnerving.  And guy on guy action is sometimes displeasing for a man who is an avowed skirt chaser.  If you are not gay and you have a gay or lesbian dream, it does not mean you have a hidden desire to bat for the other team.  What it does mean is that you are indeed proud of being a member of said team.

The sex with the same gender dreams are cousin to the mystery lover dreams in that the meaning is most often focused on gender roles.  For example, when a woman does something that makes her feel particularly feminine, such as mothering a sick friend or getting cat calls from a construction crew across the street, she could very well be the proud recipient of a lesbian dream that night!  When a man does something particularly manly, such as getting a raise or replacing the timing belt in his car, he too may very well find a man loving up on him that night.

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The 4 Worst Things A Single Girl Can Say

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Warning: Single ladies, I’m about to get all tough love up on you. I’m out and out sick of listening to my single friends repeat the same toxic sayings over and over again. My friends are fabulous, successful, sexy and very confused about why they’re still single. And from a distance, you’d be really confused too. But, I know exactly why some of my favorite single ladies can’t get a man. It’s their attitudes, and specifically how they talk about dating. If you’re a single gal—my friend or not—who’s saying any of the below totally terrible phrases about her dating life, know that you’re the reason you’re single. Read more

What to do when he won’t forgive you

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If there’s one thing I’ve learned in all of my years of being a professional relationship and love expert, it’s that nothing is constant in the world of love. Relationships ebb and flow. People we love hurt us and we hurt them. It’s just what love is... a rollercoaster of emotion. It’s a crappy position to be in when you’re the one who did the hurting and are hoping for forgiveness. It’s a tough and vulnerable situation to be in. (Of course I’m not saying it’s worse than being the hurt party, but they both have their own very demanding emotional trajectories.) And when the forgiveness isn’t as forthcoming as you hoped it would be, it gets really tricky and icky feeling. Here’s what to do. Read more

If You’re Not Happy With Yourself You’ll Never Be Happy With Someone Else

You’ve heard it before but really, it’s a basic truth in life: if we are not in a positive and content relationship with ourselves, attracting one with someone else is impossible. Read more

What to do when your new man is sick

Not to sound like a Walgreens commercial, but cold and flu season is upon us. And that means that people around you are getting sick. When you starting dating someone new, dealing with a cold or flu can be tricky. You haven’t even decided if he’s fully your boyfriend, so it’s tough to know what’s appropriate to do for your sick man and what’s not. Here are some tips to help you find out! Read more

Ask Emily: Why Won’t My Boyfriend Initiate Sex?

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Hey Emily! I've been with my boyfriend for three-and-a-half years and the sex is great! We both get wonderful pleasure from each other and are open to trying new moves. My issue (one that has been evident from the start of the relationship) is that I am always in the driver’s seat when it comes to our sexual experiences. I always make the first move. I have tried to talk to him about it but he’s not willing to do anything differently. It feels like he doesn’t even want to have sex with me unless I make him. Read more