Here’s something I think all of you women over the age of 40 who want a child and have a womb with a vacancy need to know.
I read an interesting article the other day about a recent survey on match.com.
A team went in and looked at profiles on their web site. Which revealed the unknown truth about what men think.
Can you guess what percentage of men over the age 40 said they were willing to have a child?
That’s it. 10% of men over the age of 40 are open to having a child. The article went even deeper. Most men who were dating over the age of 40, already had a family, and didn’t want any more kids.
Here is the cold hard truth I think a lot of you need to understand: You’ve made it this far in your life. And I feel for you if you haven’t had a child yet or you only have one child and want more. I can understand your craving, your desire, your need to carry another child. I understand your need to give birth, to breast feed, to do all that stuff that’s natural for you.
But you have to face reality.
A very small percentage of men over the age of 40 definitely want children, 10% that’s it. Most men over the age of 40 that don’t have kids yet, don’t want them. And the rest of them already had their children with somebody else. They don’t want the added expense and responsibility of more children — or they’re just done.
Here are 3 more reasons you need to start making alternate plans that don’t involve children…
1. You May Never Find The Right Man To Start a Family With
How many men have you dated in your life that you truly wanted to have children with? How many of them could you have seen yourself staying with happily for 30 or 40 years?
The truth is you may never find a man you connect with deep enough to want to start a family with. That doesn’t mean he can’t make you happy, it just means the relationship isn’t deep enough to build a family together.
You can’t start a family with a man you don’t believe in, otherwise you’ll end up being a single mother.
It’s almost as if we didn’t plan our lives well enough. Women have an expiration date on their eggs, and tend to panic when the time approaches. Yet the way you dated in your 20s and 30s was as if you had all the time in the world.
2. It’s Not Fair On The Children
I’ve always said the same thing about older parents, and it may sound harsh but I think they rip their children off. As an older parent, your kids will only experience you for a short period of time. Is that really fair? Losing a parent is one of the toughest things anyone has to go through, but to experience that as a young person is even harder.
Why put them through it to fulfil a fantasy?
3. You’re Still Young With A Lifetime Ahead of You
The odds are stacked against you as a 40 year-old woman. They really are, and I feel for you. Look at your life and start thinking of alternate plans.
It may be time for you come up with a ‘Plan B’.
We’re not all meant to have 2.8 kids and the house in the suburbs with white picket fence. But what I can tell you, there’s nothing worse than having a child with someone you don’t want to be with, and that’s not fair to the child. If you don’t end up having children, or even if you only have 1, that doesn’t mean you can’t be romantic, happy and fulfilled as a woman.
That’s a fallacy.
Interesting stat that I thought I’d pass along to all of you today.