Just ask Glynis: “Should they get married?”

Hi Glynis,

My daughter keeps going back and forth about whether or not to marry this guy. They are engaged, a date has been set and invitations have gone out. She doesn’t call it off exactly – she has sent me a few texts out of nowhere late at night saying, “I don’t think I can do this.” Lots of feelings rise up in me when she does this: anger, frustration and depression. I have ignored these and it seems to pass. I am hoping it’s just last minute jitters.

Her name is Erica and his is Tom. Her birth date is December 15, 1983 and his is October 17, 1984. Do you see this working out?




This is always a tough one for me — when a couple is preparing to get married and I know the numbers are not ideal. However, you have asked for my opinion and I will give it to you.

I believe your daughter is expressing her intuition about this relationship. When she sends those texts to you that state, “she can’t do it ” she is coming from her gut instinct.

Erica is a 3 Life Path. The numbers that can challenge her 3 Life Path are 4, 7 and 8. Tom’s Birth Numbers are 9 8 8 8 4*/9 Attitude. All those 8s and Tom’s 4 Life Path do concern me. Keep in mind, that a Challenge Number is a challenge for both people in the relationship, not just one or the other.

Katrina, it is possible that if they are willing to work on their differences and embrace what they have in common, they can make their relationship work.

However, if Erica were a friend of mine and asked me what I think about her and Tom’s numbers together, I would express my concerns and encourage her to be honest with herself. I have had several people write me that they were hesitant about marrying someone (the numbers were not ideal either) but because they felt pressured they went through with the ceremony. Two of the women I am thinking of right now ended up getting divorced.

Have a heart to heart with your daughter and tell her that if she really does not want to marry this man, it is OKAY with you. It may be exactly what she needs to hear right now. I will be sure to light a white candle for her in the hopes of empowering her to make the right decision.

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One Response to Just ask Glynis: “Should they get married?”

  1. Been there, done that says:

    I use to be just like Erica and my recommendation is, talk to her and let her know that if she feels that way, she doesn’t have to get married. It doesn’t mean that she has to break up, just don’t marry the person unless you are 100% sure that is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life.
    I dated a guy for 12 years. 5 of those years we were engaged. I use to always think, “I can’t do this he really isn’t a good fit for me” and so I would post phone the wedding date for silly reasons. In 2005 the date was finally set with everything paid for. It was a destination wedding so as each month got closer I felt more and more obligated to just do it, brushing it off as jitters. The day of my wedding, waiting to walk down the isle, my friend said, “you ready to do this” and my response was “no, I am not”. I should have stopped it right then but I didn’t. My reason, because of other people, not because of me. How would my parents feel that they just dropped x amount on a wedding that I am walking away from? How would my guests feel that they paid to attend the destination wedding and now, it isn’t going to happen. The truth of the matter is, I should have worried about me and not everyone else.
    In 2006, less than a year later, we separated and eventually divorced (which was ugly). He was a wonderful friend, but a horrible husband. It’s a shame…

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