Relationships

How to romance the girl you think is out of your league

Friends, Romans, lonely men, listen to me. There is no such thing as a woman who is out of your league. I truly do believe that any man can get any woman with the right strategy. All you need is some guidance, and the woman of your dreams can be the woman in your arms. Here’s what you have to do:

Be persistent

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and this romance won’t be either. Even if you get rebuffed the first few times, don’t let it get you down. Try to figure out why, address the issue and then try again. Did you ask her out last minute? Then plan ahead next time. Did you come on too strong? Then go for a more casual approach. A lot of women will say yes to any first date with a guy they’re not afraid to be alone with. If she’s afraid to be alone with you, then it’s not that she’s out of your league, buddy. It’s that you’re freaking her out. You need a different angle.

Be romantic

A lot of men think they can warm up their dream chick by becoming her friend first and then working their way up to a romantic level. Survey says: EHHHH! Once you’re in the friend zone, it’s like digging yourself out of quicksand to hop over to romance land. Make sure your initial moves with her are openly romantic. Don’t invite her to hang out with friends. Make your interactions real, true dates. You have to send a clear message.

Be quiet

I know you think you’re acknowledging the elephant in the room by telling her that she’s out of your league. But guess what? She isn’t thinking about the discrepancies in your looks or your paychecks or your educations. She’s thinking, could this guy be my man? And no one wants to call someone her man who doesn’t have confidence. Just own it. You’re on a date with a fantastic lady. Be proud of yourself, and be quiet about your insecurities. Pretend they don’t exist.

Be complimentary

Tell her she’s gorgeous. Tell her how much fun she is. Make her feel like a million bucks. In her league or not, it’s rare when a fellow really knows how to make a girl feel wonderful. If you can make her feel comfortable and confident when you’re together, then she won’t know what league either of you are in. She’ll just know she’s in first-date heaven. You’ll stand out to her.

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  • JD

    Please more tips for men such as:
    1. Best places to meet women.
    2. Style tips.
    3. Things to do with dates.
    4. Conversation tips. Best topics to talk about.
    5. Ice breakers.
    6. When you say age appropriate, what should be the age range?
    7. What would be red flags with your date?
    8. Dating etiquette.

    Thanks, love your show. I know your Millionairs are your bread and butter though I wish you had another show geared towards helping or transforming common joe’s into dating material. Just a thought.

    God Bless you,
    JD

  • Brooke

    I think a couple direct compliments about looks and personality is enough on the first couple dates. I had one guy who wouldn’t shut up about how “pretty, gorgeous, cool, sexy, fun, amazing etc. etc.” he thought I was i=on the FIRST date! It ended up being a turn off. I agree with what Patti preaches about how guys like to hunt and girls like to be chased. Being over complimentary tells me I don’t have to work for special attention.

  • Brooke

    I believe being over complimentary can be a turn off. A couple direct, sincere compliments on the first couple dates are more memorable then being constantly told your pretty, smart, sexy etc…