How Can I Make My Husband Swoon Like He Used To?

Welcome to Ask Patti! My weekly advice column where I answer your questions. If you have a question, just tweet me with the #AskPatti hashtag or click on that cute little widget in the right rail. See it? Just a little lower. Ok, you got it. Cute, right? Click on it and it totally sets you up to tweet at me. All right, on to this week’s question. Great question. Even the fact that you’re looking for ways to spice up your marriage shows me that you’re a great partner to your husband and really put effort into maintaining your relationship, which I like to hear. Relationships are about way more than falling in love. They’re about staying in love, which takes work. So, here are three tips I have for getting the excitement and intimacy back into your marriage. Read more

Top 10 Reasons You Haven’t Found “The One”

top 10 reasons you haven't found love yet

“Why haven’t I found ‘the one’?”

This is a question that I hear in my office on a pretty consistent basis. Singles who work with me sometimes wonder what they have been doing wrong. They are confused about why love hasn’t found them yet, and how they can move forward to find love now. As a matchmaker, my first job is always to get to know my client. I encourage them to open up in order to learn more about themselves and who their best match would be.  We work together to discover what hasn’t worked for them in the past so that we can agree on a resolution for the future. Read more

Vacations: Why they are critical to your marriage

This time of year always makes me think of summer break. Remember way back when you were in school and summer meant a season-long vacation? So nice, right? My summer vacation reminiscing got me thinking about vacations and how they’re critical to relationships, especially marriages. If you’re married, definitely read the tips below. Here’s why you need to hop on a plane ASAP! Read more

Happy Wednesday: Surprise your boo with a Hump Day celebration

Ho hum. Now that the holidays are over and not everything is a countdown to Christmas, the days can seem a little blah, right? Especially Wednesdays, a.k.a. Hump Days. Last weekend is a memory. Next weekend is nowhere in sight. And New Girl isn’t even on. One thing that could make Wednesdays more special is if you use them as an opportunity to get romantic with your boo by surprising him with something great. You’ll have something to look forward to on Wednesday, and you’ll definitely turn his Hump Day frown upside down. So here are some surprises to kick your midweek blues to the curb. Read more

How to make sure your relationship survives tragedy

Any of you dear readers still suffering from the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy? I have some loved ones who have been displaced, and lots of my buds spent days in the cold without heat or power. It was terrible to watch on the news and feel like there was nothing to do to help. I hope that you felt the love that I was sending the East Coast’s way. In watching all of the coverage and listening to the experts talk about how to deal with the aftermath of the storm from governmental, economic and infrastructure perspectives, I thought to myself, I wonder how people are dealing from a relationship perspective? The holidays are here, and that may only be adding to your complicated situation. Extreme stress and unexpected situations can be trying on a relationship. Here are my tips for making sure your relationship can weather any storm, plus the stress and the tragedy that comes with it. Read more

Clothed moves you can do to get his attention

Foreplay doesn’t happen just in the bedroom. The entire date, starting from the minute you say hello, is foreplay. I like to think of it as fore-foreplay. Is anyone else using that word? Should I copyright it? In the meantime, here are five fore-foreplay moves you can try. They work when you’re fully clothed and fully in public. And I guarantee they will get your man fully in the mood. Read more