Have you fallen in love with his potential?

You’ve got a new man in your life. You go, girl! He’s smart, hot and has a great job. Sounds great. But tell me more. How does he make you feel? What’s your chemistry like? Do you guys discuss the future? On the contrary -- Is he tall, dark and handsome but just can't seem to get his life together or hold a steady job? Do those questions leave you a little tongue-tied? Do you feel like everything should be amazing between you two, but it’s not quite there? Can you not picture a future with him, even though he’s absolutely perfect? Well, it might mean you’ve fallen in love with your guy’s potential and not your actual guy. Read more

Playing matchmaker for Katie Holmes

Before the big bad Tom Cruise was in Katie's life, Chris Klein had asked for her hand in marriage. I'm sure it's only a matter of time before the rumors start that they are relighting an old flame. Whether they come true or stay false, the past should stay in the past because relationships usually end for a good reason. Cue three hot male celebs that Katie should keep her eyes on and a few types that she should stay far away from. First things first: Katie should benefit from a dating detox. After a long relationship ends, it's important to do some soul searching and make sure that you know what you want next. After her timeout, these three guys should be on her radar. Read more

Keeping in touch with an ex

We all know looking for the one is no easy task. It can happen in the blink of an eye or could take eons. During your quest for love, you’ll cross many speed bumps. These speed bumps are your exes. Right for you at the time, but not right for you forever. A lot of times when we dissolve a relationship, both parties move on to bigger and better things, continue new adventures and go on their merry ways. Every now and then, there are hangers -- exes that need to be EXterminated. Sure, you could be friends with your ex. Maybe you were friends before you even got together, but is that really advantageous to your quest for love -- to have that person always hanging around to potentially mess up your love energy? Read more

Paddle balls: Breaking up and making up

Makin' Love with Rachel and Destin
Back and forth. Back and forth. The never-ending cycle of breaking up and making up and breaking up again is almost always a bad idea. Here’s the thing and the rule of thumb -- there’s a reason why you broke up in the first place. Why would you want to go back? Fellas: No matter how great the sex was, is it worth the drama? Ladies: No matter how much you don’t want to be alone, do you really want the zero over the future hero? Read more

“Help! I need to de-stress & forget about my ex!”

Forget about an ex!
Breaking up is hard to do; I’ve gone through it myself. Get past the breakup and the stress by deleting his phone number and stop following him on social networks. Even if he’s busted up about the end of your relationship, chances are he’s going to post about his boys' nights on Facebook. Nobody likes an ending, especially the death of hopes and dreams of forever. After heartbreak, you need to regroup. Purging him from your life sets the motion to move on. Read more