How to deal with your shared friends post-break up

When you date someone for long enough, your friends stop being “his friends” and “my friends” and start being “our friends.” (If that’s not happening in your long term relationship with at least some of your friends, you need to ask yourself some questions about the health of your relationship.) And the “our friends” family growth is a beautiful thing, until the break up. Then, it’s a totally messy thing. Dealing with shared friends post-break up is never going to be a dream come true, but it doesn’t have to be your worst nightmare either. Read more

What to do if you can’t stop thinking about your ex

Ah, break ups. They’re heinous on all levels. Even the best, most amicable break up is pretty effing bad. Believe me, I know! Going through the break up can be hell, but what’s sometimes worse is that there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. You keeping thinking about that final conversation, what you could have done differently, if you should have ended things earlier, what he’s doing now, who he’s doing now. The list goes on and on. And sometimes, so do your thoughts. It can be weeks and week or months and months of obsessing over the relationship. Even when you don't want to be thinking about your ex, you can’t stop. Well, here’s what to do. Read more

Ways to get over a breakup

As the old song says, “Breaking up is hard to do,” but how do you pick up the pieces after a relationship is over? Read more

The Most Toxic Relationship Behavior

Do you have interactions between you and your partner where you feel your partner is mean and even downright cruel, or vice versa? Do you feel like your partner is disgusted by you, or maybe you’re disgusted by your partner? If so, you’re in dangerous relationship territory. Read more

How do I get my boyfriend back?

Woman longs over getting her ex boyfriend back
Oh, honey. I’m so sorry. If you clicked into this, you’re hoping to turn an ex-boyfriend into a current boyfriend. I’m going to be honest with you because, well, because I don’t know any other way to be. It probably ain’t going to happen. Break ups happen because they’re supposed to happen. Think about the words “break up.” It’s called that because your relationship is broken…in a Humpty Dumpty kind of way. Meaning, it’s never going to be put back together again. But, if you think you’re one of the few couples that can break up and then get back together and live happily ever after, here’s how you should go about it. It’s going to be hard, ugly and ultimately might not even be worth it, though. So, don’t say I didn’t warn you, k? Read more

5 Things guaranteed to get you over any break up

A girl sits by the window trying to get over a breakup
If you’re a living, breathing woman, you’ve gone through a bad break up. It’s just part of being alive, unfortunately and a risk we all take when we give our heart to someone. I’m not going to sugar coat it with any B.S. like, “It’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.” When someone tells that to me after a break up, I respond with a big old middle finger. Post-break up is not a time to insist on sunshiney thinking. But, it can be a time for some tough love. Lady, you shouldn’t dwell on whatever loser let you walk away. You’ve got to get over him. And here’s how you’re going to do it. Read more