Anita Chlipala

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Anita Chlipala Anita A. Chlipala is a dating and relationship therapist, author, and speaker. She is on a mission to prove that healthy, satisfying, and passionate relationships are possible.
Anita uses relationship science to give practical advice that brings results. She is frequently quoted in the media, and has been featured in Oprah Magazine, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Cosmopolitan, People, Men’s Health Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Brides, and many more.
Anita is a licensed marriage & family therapist (LMFT) and received her Master’s degree in the nationally accredited Marital & Family therapy program from the University of San Diego. She works with singles, individuals, and couples.
Anita’s book, First Comes Us, The Busy Couple’s Guide to Lasting Love, is available on Amazon.

Posts by Anita

New relationship? Watch for these subtle early red flags

You likely know that gaslighting, uncontrolled temper, any form of abuse and contempt are bright red flags when it comes to dating. Because these behaviors are so obvious and toxic, it’s easier to end things before your relationship gets worse. But what about the subtle red flags when you first start dating someone?  These are […]

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First Date Anxiety—the Do’s and Don’ts 

So you have a date! Maybe you swiped lucky, maybe an awesome friend set you up, or maybe—just maybe—you read my 9-step guide and are now getting more new matches. Whatever the reason, if your excitement is paired with a rush of anxiety, you’re not alone.  While some of us can roll with dates like […]

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A 9-Step Guide to Refresh Your Dating Life in the New Year

Dating can be draining, time-consuming, and just plain horrible. Between catfishing, misrepresentations and exaggerations, and the plethora of emotionally unavailable people on the dating apps, the struggle to put yourself out there is real.  The almost 2-year long pandemic has been a blessing to some and a curse to others. Some singles have taken a […]

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7 Dating & Relationship Tips for the “Emotionally Unavailable” Man

When I wrote about the “21 Subtle Signs You’re Dating an Emotionally Unavailable Man,” I was overwhelmed with the responses. But they weren’t the responses I was expecting. My inbox wasn’t flooded with ex-partners telling me how validated they feel, questions about whether or not a partner is emotionally distant, nor suggestions on signs that […]

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21 Subtle Signs You’re Dating an Emotionally Unavailable Man

Let’s get this out of the way: Dating an emotionally unavailable man doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s abusive, manipulative, or a jerk.  More often than not, these men can be good guys. They can make you laugh until your abs hurt. They can be polite and treat you with respect. They listen. And over time, […]

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17 Ways to Improve Your Relationship Without Counseling

Are you or your partner resistant to relationship counseling?  Are you short on time? Money? Accessible therapists? Or, maybe, your or your partner are just wary of the idea. And I get it. I hear from many clients that going to counseling is akin to admitting failure.  But as a relationship therapist, I’ve seen over […]

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