The Sex Files with Emily Morse

Summer Lovin’: 3 Reasons Why This Is Your Dating Season

Summer DatingThere’s nothing worse than standing in the grocery checkout line during the summer. Every magazine appears to be staring you in the face, shouting, “Hey, it’s bikini season, do you really think you should be buying that pint of Chunky Monkey?” You eye your cart and consider removing the offensive items, wondering if it’s all worth it anyway. Who is going to see you naked this summer? You haven’t met anyone new since that jerk over the holidays, but Ben & Jerry have always been there for you.

Get ready for some good news: Summer is actually the best time to date! According to a survey, 73% of people find others more attractive during summer than any other time of year. Better yet, 54% of respondents said THEY felt sexier during the summertime, as well!

We can’t run from the fact that summer is a great time to get in shape; we know we’ll be outside, exposing more skin and want to look and feel our best. However, even if you never miss that grueling 6:30 am spinning class all summer long, it doesn’t guarantee that you’ll have someone to admire all your hard work. So what’s a lady to do?

If your dream for this summer is to find love, or at the very least, a summer fling, know that there is no better time to put yourself out there and see what happens. Here are three reasons why summer is YOUR season, plus tips to help you make the most of it:

  1. You’re Your Happiest Self in Summer

    No matter what kind of a winter you’ve had, it’s hard to keep up with the gloomy mood once summer rolls around. Research shows that exposure to Vitamin D-rich sunlight causes a major spike in serotonin (AKA the feel-good hormone), which improves your mood, as well as your sex drive.

    All that work you’ve been doing in the gym doesn’t hurt either — exercise boosts self-esteem and floods you body with endorphins, making you feel as good as you look! So don’t think of stepping up your workout game as a hassle; think of it as a contributing factor to your happiness and overall well-being. Thanks to your new summer workout routine, not to mention the extra sunlight, you’re getting an extra surge of those feel-good hormones, which in turn make you more confident and more likely to strike up conversations with that hottie neighbor you’ve had your eye on all year long.

  2. Longer Days, Sexier Nights:

    You’ve been cooped up all winter long in a serious relationship with Netflix and now it’s time to take the party outside. Not only are there more things to do outdoors in the summer but there are also more chances to meet people. Most cities have outdoor concert series, free movies in the park, and there’s always those spontaneous long walks on beach.

    Make plans with friends that include trying a new activity, visiting a new location and experiencing different kinds of people. If you and your friends commit to this together, it won’t be just another girl’s night at the local bar taking selfies. You’ll actually find there’s a big world outside your door, full of attractive men and endless possibilities for a good old-fashioned “meet cute”.

  3. Summer Is All About the “Yes”:

    You may have found yourself constantly on-the-go during winter and spring, but summer is the time to relax, have fun and open yourself up to more experiences.This summer, I want you to practice one simple word that will change everything, and that word is “yes”. Whether it’s to backyard BBQ’s, pool parties or even road tripping with your friends, the more you say yes to new experiences, people and events that come your way, the more likely you are to meet someone.

    I’m not saying that your Prince Charming will be attending every BBQ and pool party this summer, but perhaps his friends will be there. Maybe you’ll meet someone who has just the guy for you. The point is, most people meet a new partner through a friend or friends of friends. Even if you make a bunch of new buddies this summer, you will still come out ahead.

    All things social are more enjoyable in the summer, and when you commit to saying yes, you’re opening yourself up to a variety of experiences you might not have had. Hey, you never know who you’ll meet or who’s cute brother is in town for a long weekend.

The time is now, ladies: Put away the Ben and Jerry’s (away like, into your freezer, not back on the shelf), throw on a sundress and step out into that summer sun. You’ve got this!

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