Single girl, you want a man by next V-Day? Here’s exactly how you should spend February 14th

Even for someone like me – who literally is in love with love itself – February 14thcan feel pretty miserable when you’re single. If you don’t want to feel like this when your next Valentine’s Day comes around, you have to change something. Actually, babe, you have to change a lot of things. And you can start on February 14thby doing a few really easy tasks.

Visualize your future

Set a timer for an hour, close your eyes and spend all that time thinking about what you want your future to be, specifically in terms of love. Mentally get yourself to your next Valentine’s Day. What does it feel like? What does he look like? Think about details. If you’re by a romantic fire, let yourself feel the warmth. If your future man wrote you a sweet card, let yourself get the ooshy gushies inside. Actually be in that moment and then, once the hour is over, believe that you’re already on your path to that night. If you truly, deeply believe it, you can manifest it.

Makeover your profile

Of course, to manifest your next perfect Valentine’s Day, you need to put in the work. That means meeting new people, which means going out on dates, which means swiping online. If you’re single right now and men aren’t beating down your digital door, that means something’s not right with your dating profile. Ditch your current one and start again. All new pictures and all new copy. Totally fresh!

Commit to dating yourself

You’re awesome. I know it, but do you know it? And if you know it, are you treating yourself like the awesome queen that you are? I bet you’re not, but you can start by committing to having a “date with yourself” night once a week for the next month. That means you’ll take yourself out for something amazing – a nice meal, a movie, a new experience, a spa treatment, whatever! – and spend a few hours treating yourself how you want to be treated on a date. Spend part of V-Day planning out four amazing self-dates.

Be grateful

I’m a major believer in gratitude is the only attitude. Being grateful for what you have – instead of lamenting what you don’t – changes your entire world. So, I know it’s easy to feel sorry for yourself and wish you had a man to canoodle with tonight. But, forget that! Take out a piece of paper, number it one through 20 and write down at least twenty things you have to be grateful for in your life. It seems like a lot when you start, but once you get into it, you’ll totally be in the groove. 20 won’t seem like enough!

Get down with yourself

You know what I mean, girl. Get out your vibrator and have a little fun. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re celibate. Like the visualization exercise I mentioned above, this is all about “If you build it, they will come.” And, in this case, you will come, too.

Hope these ideas help you have a happy Valentine’s Day. You deserve a fabulous one, girl. And I know you’re next one will be with a man that makes you feel great.