There’s a question that I get asked all the time at my seminars for women. It’s one of the biggest questions, but there’s not one person in the world that can tell you the right answer.
When is the right time to have sex with a man?
There are so many different opinions:
Don’t have sex until you have a commitment.
Wait six months.
Wait at least 10 days.
Wait at least until the end of the third date.
Find out what his first cousin’s name is first.
Find out what breed his first dog was and what car he first drove, and if they have the same starting letter you can sleep with him on the fourth date.
It’s crazy, but it’s one of the highest searched questions online. When is the right time to have sex?
First off, I’m going to tell you that nobody can make that decision for you except you and the man you’re dating.
Nobody, no matter what you read, no matter what friend you ask, no matter what coach you may ask, not one person has the right answer because every situation is dramatically different.
One time I met a woman and within two hours we had sex, and we were together for three years. That’s right, within two hours we had sex, and we were together for three years.
Hey, you might be thinking why weren’t you together longer? Well, we outgrew one another, but we had a spectacular relationship. It was beautiful. We were young, we were spontaneous, we enjoyed it, and we had sex right away.
I’ve had other relationships where it took me a month to have sex because I wanted to get comfortable; I wanted to get to know them in a different way. I was at a different stage in my life. It doesn’t matter.
There was another night when I met somebody from Match.com and we had sex right away, and we had a great six month run. The problem is that timing is everything in relationships and we weren’t ready for one another at that time.
I can sit here and list every relationship and when I’ve had sex, but they’re all going to be different, and there’s not one right answer. So how do you know when to have sex?
First off, you need to trust your gut instincts.
Second, if you do have sex with him and it doesn’t work out, you need to be okay with that. You need to be okay with the fact that you gave your body to somebody who just didn’t want you again, and you need to not take it personally.
And third, you need to get an idea of what this man is about. If a man pushes sex too quickly on a first date, he’s not somebody you want to sleep with right away. But if a man wants to get to know you, and honors you, and asks questions, and follows up, then he’s a man who actually walks the walk and talks the talk. If a man does all those things, that’s the type of guy you want to have sex with in the first place because that’s the type of man who is going to respect you in so many ways. And that’s the type of man you will most likely get into a relationship with.
I know this question is pursued and written about all over the Internet. The bottom line is you have to trust yourself sometimes because nobody can tell you what is right and what is wrong. Only you know that. It’s about dialing into those beautiful instincts that you have. Trust yourself.