#AskPatti: The MIA guy, avoiding online dating & physical attraction

Ask Patti Stanger
Hope you lovelies has a gorgeous week. I definitely did. I’ve been super swamped with work recently, but I had some very successful dates with several of my clients this week. And getting those phone calls is the best. I’d stay in the office until midnight every single day of the year if it meant more gleeful post-first date calls. Another reason my week was so great was your questions. Let’s jump into them. Read more

The Super Sex Diet

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Here’s a dilemma: a choice between a big old piece of rich, gooey chocolate cake or rock-your-world sex. Tough call—right? That’s because food and sex are two of the most powerful and closely related human desires. Both the sensual gratifications of a decadent sweet and mind-blowing sex literally turn on the pleasure receptors in the brain. Feed Your Libido Have a rendezvous with food in the kitchen and in the bedroom and double your pleasure. With my Super Sex Diet you won’t have to decide between a great romp and a rich dessert. Here’s how… Read more

Do You Suffer From Email Madness?

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Do you find that the best way for you to relate to someone is via e-mail, or texting? Do you feel you could open up more in an e-mail than you can in person? Do you feel like you can express your thoughts better when you write them? It’s amazing when you think about it. Go back 30 years and all we had were conversations. Now we have so many ways to communicate instantly without having to actually speak, we rarely hear each other’s voices anymore. I’ve had entire “relationships” where I’ve only emailed the person. Not once did we communicate by phone. Is that the right or wrong way to go about relationships? Read more

Let’s Get Married

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As a gay man, there are certain things that you obligated to talk about with all of your best girlfriends:

Hair (Should she cut it, or color it) Television Shows (Who do you want to sleep with on the CW) Sex (giving her advice on how to use a penis properly) And last but not least…. Weddings. You see, a straight girl can chat about all her crazy wedding fantasies to her gay best friend and not feel like…. she is being crazy. Read more

8 Ways to Make Masturbation Even Better

Even if you think masturbation is the only thing you’ve mastered in adulthood, there are always new ways to do you. Think about it this way: would you have sex with the same person, the exact same way every time? I didn’t think so. Then why would you treat yourself that way? As Woody Allen put it, “masturbation is sex with someone you love.” Get out your trusty vibrator and treat yourself with these 8 ways to make masturbation even better: Read more

The Benefits of Working with a Certified Matchmaker

I mention the benefits of working with a Certified Matchmaker often, so I want to take some time to explain why working with matchmakers that are certified is so beneficial.

A little back story:

When I left my career in social work to become a matchmaker, I found a huge gap in the matchmaking industry in terms of support, networking, and industry standards. As a social worker I was used to attending conferences, taking advantage of ongoing training opportunities, and having a network of peers and co-workers to consult with on a daily basis. In my new career none of this was available to me. I had to learn on the fly, and made many mistakes along the way. To amend this, I co-founded the Matchmaking Institute in 2003, two years after starting my matchmaking company VIP life.  I am proud to say that the institute is the first state licensed school for matchmakers with an approved curriculum. The Matchmaking Institute offers a professional matchmakers trade association, matchmaking workshops, and a yearly world-wide professional Matchmakers and Date Coaches Conference.  Read more