Moving on from Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez

After nearly two years of dating, Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez have called it quits. Beliebers everywhere are cheering, tweeting and trying to catch the young heartthrob’s eye. Even though tweens worldwide may be thrilled to learn that JB is back on the market, anyone who’s ever experienced real heartbreak knows that a breakup is sad, and this one is no different. When you’re young, it’s even more confusing. Justin, Selena, here’s more about why Cupid may have missed his mark.

You don’t know yourself as well as you think you do

When we’re young, we’re stubborn. How similar were you at 18 to the person you are now? For me, there’s a big difference. I was insecure, unsure and really, really into Rod Stewart. I kind of even had his haircut. Would I let 18-year-old Patti make any decisions for me now? Heck no. No one with feathered bangs should be trusted as their own guardian. It takes years of wisdom to be trusted with full custody of you, and even then, we’re all prone to following our head at times when we should have followed our heart and vice versa.

Stating the obvious

Being young means you’re young. I know, not a groundbreaking statement. But with youth comes a lot of trial and error and a lot of dependence on people around you. You tell friends too much about your relationship, and you give the silent treatment to prove a point. Young love is normally more of a practice run — a way to learn to be a better partner, rather than the real thing. When you’re young, you do things in an immature manner, especially when it comes to your relationships. When there’s a fight, you say things you can’t take back. You sulk instead of apologize. These immature relationship habits are to be expected from first-timers in love, but they’re not healthy and they certainly don’t contribute to a relationship that’s going to last the ages.

Life is mean and change is rough

Life throws some pretty crazy stuff our way, and there’s probably no time life changes more than your adolescent years. Your body is changing, your living situation is changing and your perception of the world is changing. Everything changes during your teen years and through your early twenties. For example, I switched up my undying love for Rod Stewart and started really digging Newcleus. (See, we don’t always make the best decisions in our youth!) I also started taking more responsibility and taking big steps to make tough decisions. A change in your romantic situation is a change that seems inevitable just because life is life.

Who thinks Selena Gomez is ready for a man?