I’m guessing this isn’t your first relationship rodeo. You’ve been around the block in the relationship department. So have I! And I don’t think of this as a negative at all. It’s good to have experience. Practice makes perfect and by this point, you know exactly what you want. Those are very good things! And when you find yourself in a new relationship, you probably know if you want to get serious with this newbie right away. If you do, why wait? Here’s how to crank up your new relationship into serious territory straight away.
The best way to amp up a relationship is to amp up the intimacy. And I don’t mean between the sheets. I mean being vulnerable emotionally. It’s true that this exposes you to the possibility of getting hurt, but that’s a risk you have to take with a new relationship. Talk about important things in your life, show this newbie some weaknesses and ask for help and support when you need it. And reciprocate all of that, too! This is what a serious relationship is about.
Go on a trip
Another way to step up your relationship is to vacation together. Even a long weekend away together can mean big leaps in creating shared memories and making you two feel like more of a team. If you have a good feeling about this person, plan a trip as soon as possible to get your relationship ball rolling.
Live your life
What makes the beginning stages of dating feel so much like you’re not quite in a real relationship yet is that you’re not being your real self. As soon as you’re comfortable, drop the getting to know you act and be yourself. Cook a meal you’d actually make on a weeknight instead of some fancy four course affair to impress them. Go on errands together. Invite them to low-key hangs with friends and family. If you start living your life with this person, you’ll start to feel more seriously connected to them.
Talk about it
If you truly want to get serious with the person you’re dating, let them know by directly saying it. Explain what you want out of a serious relationship and ask what they want. Have an open discussion about expectations, timelines and long term goals. You might not hear what you want to hear, but it’s better to know now than after wasting a lot of your precious time.
Act like it
The best way to get anything you want is to not just talk the talk, but walk the walk. Act like you’re dating your boo seriously. Problem solve small things so they don’t turn into big things. Introduce them to important people in your life. Plan for a future together. Make space for them in your daily life. I’m a huge believer in the power of positive thinking. And, ironically, positive thinking involves a lot of positive doing! So, do it!
Congrats on finding someone you want to get serious with. I hope this helps crank up your rookie relationship to MVP status!