I’ve been noticing a trend of very short engagements. I’m talking short short. Like a few months to even a few weeks. Generally, engagements last for a year to a year and a half. But, not any more. That timeframe is getting smaller and smaller. And I’m so here for it. Here’s why.
Get that party started
You just said “yes” to spending the rest of your life with someone. Not “hold on for a quick year and a half.” With a short engagement, you can say yes and mean it. Don’t put off the rest of your life. Get that party started as soon as possible. Also, I’ve noticed that women are getting engaged later and later. Getting engaged at 22 and waiting a year to get married is completely different from getting engaged at 38 and waiting a year to get married. If you want kids, your fertility numbers aren’t going to care that it’s traditional to wait a full year to tie the knot and start trying. If you’re nearing or past 35, dive into baby making STAT. Totally get it if you want to be married before you pull your contraception goalie, but totally don’t get putting off marriage.
Not about the wedding
I love weddings. Like, one of my favorite things to do is attend a wedding. And I go to a lot, thanks to my high success rate at the Millionaire’s Club. But, the truth is that weddings aren’t what an engagement is about. It’s super easy to get wrapped up in the details and drama of planning a wedding. But, a wedding’s just one day. This engagement’s about your entire life. Spending a full year or more planning a wedding can blow it totally out of proportion. With a short engagement, you have enough time to plan a party without driving yourself or anyone else insane with wedding minutia.
When you know, you know
Some people seem freaked about a short engagement because they say, “the couple’s rushing into it.” Um, no. If they’ve both agreed to be engaged, a wedding isn’t rushing anything. It’s follow through on the engagement. I’m a big believer in female intuition. When a girl knows, she knows. If you knew enough to say yes to him, don’t be afraid to fulfill that promise you made as quickly as possible. If it feels right to you, it’s right. And a long engagement isn’t going to make it more right. Trust yourself, girl. When you know, you know.
As long as you can pull your wedding together and schedule it so your important people can see you make these loving vows to each other, your engagement can be as short as you want it to be.