Why your parents should meet before you two get engaged

Meeting your boo’s parents is big time. It comes with a lot of stress and a lot of meaning for your relationship. So, I’m not trying to discount that experience at all. But, I have to say that you meeting your boo’s parents is nothing compared to when your boo’s parents meet your parents. It’s more people, more personalities, more moving parts and more parents. Add all of that together and you’ve got a really high stakes situation. Still, the stress and sweat are very worth it. In fact, I think it’s mandatory for your parents to meet before you two get engaged. Here’s why. Read more

What to do, wear and say when you meet his parents

What happens when you meet his parents
When your relationship is heading into serious territory long after that first date has passed, there comes a time when you must face meeting the parents or in some cases the entire family depending on how it plays out.  For some of us it is a monumentally joyous occasion and for others it’s a rather stress-inducing event to say the least.  Here are a few pointers to help you ease through what could be a nerve racking encounter.  Most importantly, be yourself and enjoy the company!

Smiling is the Key

Never underestimate the power of smiling.  We all know that smiling makes us feel better and that of course goes for those around us as well.  It is an effortless yet effective way to connect with others without saying a word.  A genuine, heart-felt smile will gain trust, score points and ultimately go a long way to helping you making a good first impression.  If you are nervous, less social or simply don’t have much to say then smiling is a way to compensate.  There is something very reassuring and positive to other people when they see someone smiling they are meeting for the first time.  Especially in cases where the parents (mom’s most likely) may go into it attempting to judge you in some capacity because they are sizing you up as a possible match for their son.

Be an Effective Conversationalist

You will be much better off being a keen listener instead of taking over the conversation and coming across as self-absorbed.  Be engaged in the conversation, pay attention and listen attentively while giving good feedback when asked.  Remember, the tone of your voice carries more weight than the words themselves more often than not.  The communication and rapport you establish with your potential future in-laws will have a major impact and could be a deciding factor for his parents in terms of how they see you as a wife/partner.  So, don’t screw it up.

Visual Representation

Win his parents over at the first sight of you!  What you wear says a lot about you and that “dress to impress" tactic applies even more importantly than ever in this scenario.  Mostly likely, you will be meeting elders ~ which means dress appropriately and accordingly.  You don’t need to be decked out in goodie-goodie church attire (unless that’s your style) but worse yet show up in a beat-up shirt and flip flops that screams slob.  Keep your look presentable while your personality shows through your fashion sense.  Here is a fail-proof way ~ think subtle & sophisticated. Don beautiful, subtle makeup along with a polished dress to flaunt your lady-like demure.  Complete the outfit with your favorite accessories.  Last but not least, keep in mind that when you are comfortable in your own skin, well, it shows!  

What to do when his family sucks

When you don't get along with the in-laws
Being in a relationship is a mostly wonderful thing. There’s the companionship, the learning, the laughter and don’t forget about the sex! But, there are some downsides to being in a long-term relationship. And the biggest bummer of a serious relationship is normally his family. I’ve heard so many in-law horror stories, I could write a book! (Actually, that’s not a bad idea! Maybe I will!) And while I can’t promise to make your in-laws better people, I can offer you a few tips for how to deal with them in ways that will make your relationship more tolerable. Read more

What to do if your mate’s family doesn’t like you

Daughter-in-law is irritated by her mother-in-law
With the holidays upon us, I’m getting a lot of questions asking for advice on dealing with your mate’s family. This is the time of year when the most family meet and greets happen. And, let’s be honest here, for a lot of people, that means that the holidays aren’t the most wonderful time of the year. Family hangouts can be freaking stressful…especially if your mate’s family doesn’t dig you. Well, I’m not going to claim that I can fix this issue. But, I do have some tips on how to survive if your mate’s family doesn’t like you. Read more