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The Definition of Emotional Prison

There’s a disease that I need to talk to all of you about.

It’s a disease that a lot of you have, and you haven’t been diagnosed yet.

It’s the disease called Emotional Prison.

Let’s go through the symptoms right now, because you’re not going to be able to go see your doctor and find out that you have it. If you Google it, well, this may be the only article with the exact phrase.

Let’s talk about the symptoms of Emotional Prison.

1. It’s the fear of being yourself.

You start dating somebody, and you feel like they’re critiquing all the things you do. You feel like you just don’t know what to say to them so you can get them to like you, which is a big mistake that most people who live in Emotional Prison are usually suffering from.

Which leads us to symptom #2…

2. The symptom of getting somebody to like you.

You’ve given your power away to somebody else. So Emotional Prison is another example of when you give your power away to somebody else.

You don’t know what to do. You want them to like you so badly, but you’re so afraid to do anything.

So in turn, you just over-analyze every single text message. You ask yourself if you did the right thing.

You show the text message to other friends, and you go through the entire conversation with them to make sure you didn’t say anything that might have turned the person that you want off.

You think and over-think about everything.

You plot almost every single move you can make because you want to get the person.

Which leads us to number three…

3. The feeling of how you turn the whole thing around.

There was a moment in the beginning of the relationship, because you’re usually stuck in the beginning of the relationship the whole time. This usually happens with somebody right in the beginning, and you decide to just – well, you decide to be the weaker person.

You use terms like “how do I turn this whole thing around?”

To be honest with you, you don’t turn something around when you’re in Emotional Prison with someone. If one person has the upper hand and you have to be something that you’re not, you always have to be on your best behavior.

What type of relationship is that? That’s not a relationship. That is the true definition of Emotional Prison.

Emotional Prison is having to be on your toes at all times, wondering if you say the wrong thing, it’s going to set the other person off.

Wondering if you say something wrong, they’re not going to like you anymore.

Wondering if you need to be able to have a discussion with your friends 24/7 to find that exactly what you need to do next.

This is not relationships, folks. This is what I consider to be something extremely, extremely dangerous to be involved in.

You see, people who suffer Emotional Prison Disease tend to be people who are very insecure when it comes to being their selves in a relationship.

That stems from issues in your past and issues with your parents.

In order to have a healthy, loving, amazing relationship, guess what? You need to be able to be yourself. Someone needs to see the joyous, amazing, incredible you.

If that’s not enough for somebody, and you feel you constantly have to be on your toes and you’re walking on eggshells, that’s never going to be a relationship that’s ever going to get very far in life.

As a matter of fact, it’s going to be a relationship that’s going to cause you a lot of emotional distress.

If you finally get that person, well, what are you getting exactly? You’re getting somebody who you had to be something that you’re not. Emotional Prison. Think about it.