Help! I love his personality, but I’m not attracted to him

Thanks to social media, I get a lot more questions from people looking for relationship advice. And I freaking love it. Seriously, hearing from fans and followers is probably my favorite thing in the world. Or maybe it’s Nutella. Whatever. Hearing from you guys is definitely one of my top two favorite things in the world.   Recently, I’ve gotten a few questions from ladies who are dealing with the same issue. There’s a man in their lives that’s perfect for them, but they’re just not attracted to him. Basically, his personality rocks, but there’s no physical attraction. Should a woman date a guy she’s not attracted to? Well, I know this is annoying, but I’m going to answer your questions with a few of my own questions.   Read more

Porn Lesson

This is going to be a fun one. Okay, where do I start… I started seeing a girl recently who’s younger than I am. I mention this upfront because I believe it has direct influence on the story. I mean, I’m not breaking any laws but she’s more than ten years younger than I am, which makes her from a different generation. When I first met her I didn’t think it was a big deal. Socially, I mean. I still don’t. I did feel like a cliché for a brief moment, older guy with hot young girl, but eventually figured you can’t help who you’re attracted to. Nor should you try. If she was up for it, I definitely was too. We liked being around each other, had great chemistry and were both interested in taking it to the next level. Read more

How to cope when your religions don’t

If you watch Millionaire Matchmaker, you know that I put a lot of emphasis on religion when I’m matching a millionaire. I always ask my clients how important religion is to them and if they’d prefer to be matched with a partner of the same faith. I’ve been around the block in this business and I know that religion can be a maker or a breaker in relationships. Unfortunately though, unless you have a professional matchmaker helping you out, the topics of religion and faith in your life plan often don’t come up until you’re already very emotionally invested in your relationship. So, if you’ve found yourself loving someone whose religious beliefs don’t match up with your own, here’s how to deal. Read more

Bringing kids into the conversation: How soon is too soon?

Kids are a fundamental part of any serious relationship. And by that, I mean the desire to have them or not have them can completely color the future of a relationship... especially if the couple disagrees. Trust me, I know. You just can’t make a relationship work long term if you two don’t see eye to eye on the kiddo situation. Period. End of story. Read more

5 Things you should know about him before you move in together

Moving in together is like getting engaged but without any jewelry. If you know me, you know that I don't recommend a move without a ring. But if you disagree with me on that, at least take into consideration some things you should know about him before you move in together to make sure that it happens only once and only with the right guy. The number one rule is to make sure you at least get a promise ring. Read more

Sex outdoors: Tacky or sexy?

It’s that time of year. The weather is really warm, well into the nighttime hours. For all of you who have sex on the brain — that can lead to thinking about doing the dirty out in nature. Admit it, you’ve thought of it. There’s no shame. Getting down out in nature seems so romantic. It’s totally something characters in a Nicholas Sparks novel would do... in a field, surrounded by flowers and tall grass... Ryan Gosling... yep. We’re not characters in a Nicholas Sparks novel, though. So in real life, is sex outdoors as sexy as it seems or is it totally tacky? Well, it’s kind of both. Here are some pros and cons of outdoor sex. Read more