What I think about The Bachelor breakups

Ben, Courtney, Emily, Jef. They called it quits! To both breakups, I say big whoop. Don’t get me wrong. I’m a huge fan of both shows, and I totally fell for Jef. His eyes. His humor. His style. Swoon. Swoon. Swoon. But you have to be extreme to think that either of these couples had a definite chance. Here’s what you can learn from these TV couples. Read more

To the men: How to approach women and avoid being creepy

"Creepy" is a pretty negative term, yet unfortunately, it’s one that women use a little too often to describe guys. The annoying thing is, the vast majority of guys branded as "creepy" are done so unfairly. The truth is these guys are usually cool, calm, confident men in every other aspect of their lives who just can’t seem to convey that to the women they meet. This typically happens because either they’re nervous and fearful of rejection or they have no idea what to say. But women don’t know this. They don’t know you’re nervous; they don’t know that you are questing what to say. All they know is that something does not feel right about you when you approach them, and therefore you become creepy. So how does a guy approach a woman and avoid being labeled as creepy? Read more

Ever wonder why you can’t find a love that lasts?

Did you ever think that maybe you decided before you reincarnated on earth that you chose to put a lot of appointments in your little black book to hook up with various people on purpose? Some of us are not like others when comes to relationships. You may be that guy or girl whose has a lot of dates, mates or even marriages but seem to be unlucky in love. That's not true -- As a believer of reincarnation there's another reason. It doesn't mean you can't stick with one or that you're a failure in love. It just may mean that you decided before you got here that you wanted to get rid of the karma, in some cases drama, quickly all in one life. Once we get through the cause and effect of karma in past relationships and learn the universe's lesson, it dissipates not to haunt us again. In English that means, next! Read more

How young is too young for plastic surgery to boost your confidence?

If all it takes is a little nip here or filler there to make you feel like the million bucks you are, then why not go ahead and do it, right? Not so fast. I’m not giving all plastic surgery an all-access pass because there certainly are caveats. One of them being age. According to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, nearly 219,000 cosmetic plastic surgery procedures were performed on people ages 13 to 19 in 2010. That’s a pretty big number and raises the question — how young is too young for plastic surgery? Of course, I’m not a medical professional. But I do live in Los Angeles, so I’m somewhat of an unofficial expert in the field of elective surgery and cosmetic procedures. Here are my thoughts. Read more

Are lubricants safe for your sexual health?

A girlfriend of mine recently came to brunch horrified. She told me that the night before, during sex, her boyfriend asked her if she had any lube. As she told me the story, I could tell she was upset, but I couldn't figure out why. “I mean, me? Lube? Come on! Like I’m the type of girl to have that,” she shrieked. Apparently, my friend thought lube was gross and, she told me later, unsafe. I’m not sure where she got that idea, but I thought I’d write about it here, just in case this is what a lot of women think. Read more

Girl next door vs. mean girl: What gets you farther?

The girl next door vs. the mean girl. Round 9,167. Ding, ding, ding. Fight on. Doesn't it seem like these two personas are always pitted against each other? I’m always getting questions about what type of women men are most attracted to. Nice girls? Mean girls? Shy girls? Aggressive women? Maternal women? Bitches? And my answer is yes. Always yes. I’m a firm believer that there’s a lid for every pot. So there’s a guy for every type of girl. That being said, there are some general things I like to think about when deciding between the girl next door vs. the mean girl debate. Read more