Ask Emily – Help! I’ve Been Faking O’s

Hi Emily, I've been with my boyfriend for around 8 months and have still never had a REAL orgasm during sex. And as if this isn’t bad enough, my partner has no idea, because I’ve gotten into the habit of faking it. I know, it’s terrible! Now I’m tired of pretending and am ready for the real deal, but don’t know how to confess my sin. I want to be honest with him, because it’s not fair to him or to me, but I feel like it will break him if I tell him the truth. How do I approach this? Thanks, Alexa Read more

Be The Change You Want To See in The Bedroom: How to Initiate Sex More

Q: Hi Emily, I have a question regarding sex with my fiance. We really only have sex on the weekends, maybe once or twice on Saturday or on Sunday morning. He works long hours and is often very tired after work, and he has stated on multiple occasions that he doesn’t feel like having sex when he is tired. Personally, I would love to be getting busy more often, but I always end up feeling like he’s just not into it. Read more

How to Get Your Man to Step Up His Oral Sex Game

Dear Emily, Recently I have been dealing with an issue that I can’t seem to wrap my head around: I’m in love with a man who is absolutely awful at performing oral sex. He doesn’t go down on me very often, but when he does it’s sloppy and rough and all over the place - I mean, really terrible! I just don’t get it... He is a great kisser and is so good with his hands, but when it comes to oral sex, he seems to be completely clueless. Read more