Matchmaking 101 - Office Hours with Lisa Clampitt

Is Penis Size No Small Thing?

penis sizeAs a matchmaker, I’ve honestly heard it all. And it’s one of the main reasons I wanted to do this summer series. A lot of questions and concerns go unanswered because people are too embarrassed to ask.

So let’s address something I hear all the time…

Does penis size matter?

Here are 3 things you need to consider:

1. Is he a good guy? Is this is a guy who treats you well? If he is intimate, sensual and willing to compensate for you in other ways, then I think penis size should take a back seat. It’s all about connection and if you have that with someone, I believe penis size doesn’t have to be a key factor.

2. Be more vocal. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want in the bedroom. Tell him what he can do to please you. The more honest you are about what you want, the better the sex will be, regardless of penis size.

3. There’s no need to tell him. While you are telling him what you want more of – keep quiet on the size of his penis. If a guy has a small penis, chances are he knows. So you don’t have to tell him or make the situation uncomfortable. It all goes back to assessing your current situation. Is this a relationship-minded guy who you really want to be with? If yes, then I believe you can find ways to be satisfied in and out of the bedroom.

As I said at the top, as a matchmaker, I’ve heard it all. So a big penis does not always equal great sex, either. That’s a fact.

Overall, I think penis size is overrated.

Focus on real intimacy, asking for what you need, and decide to let sex be exploratory and sensual – not merely measured by size.

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