People ask me all the time for ways to tell if someone’s good in bed.
In fact, I just got this email from a listener in Houston:
Dear Emily,
Do you have any tips for figuring out if someone’s good in bed before you sleep with them? The reason I’m asking is because there’s this guy at work who I always thought was really hot, but he had a girlfriend. Well, the other day he came over to my desk to specifically ask if I was going to happy hour on Friday. Then I found out he and his girlfriend had broken up! Now I can’t stop thinking about sleeping with him and I’m dying of curiosity. Are there any clues that might help me even though I only see him in an office? Read more
Who has the fairest changing room lighting of them all?
Trust me—you’ll need a filtered lens to find a well-lighted fitting room in this country. We’ve all been there. As you race to the dressing room, maneuvering an armful of the latest fashions, take heed. Even a fit, toned, and tanned woman with nary an ounce of body fat can fall victim to a bout of low self-esteem when she sees herself in the halogen lighting and funhouse mirrors provided in the typical dressing room, including those in high-end shops. Read more
Yes…
Keeping a relationship healthy isn’t easy, but it’s worthwhile when you think about all the happiness and pleasure it can bring you. So what’s the secret to a successful relationship? I believe one of the biggest secrets to long, happy relationships is to manage your relationship with yourself first.
In other words, before you meet someone, you need to work out what YOU want from a relationship. I want you to take the time to consider these questions, and be completely honest with yourself. Read more
With the holidays upon us, I’m getting a lot of questions asking for advice on dealing with your mate’s family. This is the time of year when the most family meet and greets happen. And, let’s be honest here, for a lot of people, that means that the holidays aren’t the most wonderful time of the year. Family hangouts can be freaking stressful…especially if your mate’s family doesn’t dig you. Well, I’m not going to claim that I can fix this issue. But, I do have some tips on how to survive if your mate’s family doesn’t like you. Read more
In all my years of coaching, I’m still amazing how many times women come to me with this major issue: Falling in love with a married man!
And the story always starts the same way. “There’s this amazing guy. We get on sooo well, and he makes me feel like no other man. I know he’s married and I shouldn’t get involved, but we’ve only gone out for dinner. It’s all very innocent really…”
That’s about the time the guy makes his play. Read more
Aziz Ansari is right! Text messaging has the power to ruin dating. The aggravation and exasperation he expresses to Conon O’Brien in this clip about dating in the digital age is exactly what I coach my clients to work against.
Back in the days before the text message, when a man called a woman and asked her on a date, he didn’t have the option of sending a quick note to cancel at the last minute. He showed up like he said he would, and they had the opportunity to communicate in person. There was intimacy in this process because communication was direct, respectful, and responsive. Read more
