If there’s one thing I’ve learned in all of my years of being a professional relationship and love expert, it’s that nothing is constant in the world of love. Relationships ebb and flow. People we love hurt us and we hurt them. It’s just what love is... a rollercoaster of emotion. It’s a crappy position to be in when you’re the one who did the hurting and are hoping for forgiveness. It’s a tough and vulnerable situation to be in. (Of course I’m not saying it’s worse than being the hurt party, but they both have their own very demanding emotional trajectories.) And when the forgiveness isn’t as forthcoming as you hoped it would be, it gets really tricky and icky feeling. Here’s what to do. Read more
You’ve heard it before but really, it’s a basic truth in life: if we are not in a positive and content relationship with ourselves, attracting one with someone else is impossible.
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Not to sound like a Walgreens commercial, but cold and flu season is upon us. And that means that people around you are getting sick. When you starting dating someone new, dealing with a cold or flu can be tricky. You haven’t even decided if he’s fully your boyfriend, so it’s tough to know what’s appropriate to do for your sick man and what’s not. Here are some tips to help you find out!
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Hey Emily!
I've been with my boyfriend for three-and-a-half years and the sex is great! We both get wonderful pleasure from each other and are open to trying new moves. My issue (one that has been evident from the start of the relationship) is that I am always in the driver’s seat when it comes to our sexual experiences. I always make the first move. I have tried to talk to him about it but he’s not willing to do anything differently. It feels like he doesn’t even want to have sex with me unless I make him. Read more
Q: Dear Emily,
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but there is one issue that keeps popping up. He recently asked me to pleasure myself in front of him, and it’s not the first time he has made this request. I masturbate from time to time, but never in front of another person! I feel like masturbation is such a private activity and trying to do it in front of him feels awkward and forced. The last time he asked, I got angry and told him to do it himself and see how it feels, but my plan backfired because he totally loved it. Why is this such a big turn on for him? And how can I masturbate for my BF without feeling so uncomfortable?
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I was at brunch with my girlfriends this past weekend and one of my single friends was talking about the guy she just started dating. It’s been a few weeks and she’d finally invited him over to her place for dinner. This was going to be the first meal she cooked for him and she was freaking out. “I feel like this is wife auditions!” she kept saying. And, frankly, she was very, very right. The first time you cook for a man is a bit like a wife audition. I don’t want to freak you out, but it’s very important. Here’s what to cook to make it go smoothly.
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