There’s nothing disingenuous about adopting an iron hand in the velvet glove approach. It will certainly get you farther than bare-knuckled facts.
If only you could begin again. You know exactly what you’d do differently. That said, it’s not too late to put this realization to good use.
You were convinced you had to leave to find your way. Now you’re not so sure. Don’t worry. The other party wants to make amends.
If you’re going to cast about for something new, then be sure to follow through. Doing it for the attention is a recipe for disaster.
Stop jumping through hoops, because you proved yourself. It’s a boss or manager’s turn to trundle out the dog and pony show.
It may feel like you’re letting someone down, but covering for this person only allows the situation to limp along. You need to retire your role as emotional crutch.
