How to find love when it’s not finding you

I just finished reading Rebooting in Beverly Hills by Marcy Miller. 40 plus singles, get a copy now! I mean that. It's a funny and honest look at dating later in life, something I can surely relate to. Reading the book got me thinking about how love is like a big game of hide and seek. But in this dating version of hide and seek, it can feel like you’re doing all of the seeking and no one's ever seeking you. Not to spoil the ending, but Marcy found love in her quest and very rarely got discouraged, even when it seemed like she was playing that unfair version of hide and seek. Her attitude toward dating impressed me so much, I thought I'd throw together a Rebooting in Beverly Hills-inspired list of ways to find love when it feels like it's not looking for you. Read more

How to deal when you’re more successful than your man

So you got a raise and now you out-earn your man. Or maybe your boyfriend just got laid off, so you're pulling in all the bacon now. Or you've decided that it makes the most financial sense for your family to have a stay-at-home daddy. Whatever the case, women out-earning their men is a reality for more and more couples. While it's becoming more common, that doesn't mean that it's the norm. It's actually going against gender norms in our society. And going against the grain like that can be a strain on your relationship. So here's how to deal when you're more successful than your man.

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How to stay motivated when it comes to dating

No one lists "dating" as a hobby. Dinners with boring strangers and uncomfortable forced hugs are not anyone's idea of a good time. I'm not the first one to say it, but dating sucks when it’s not going well. And dates don't go well most of the time. It's understandable that a lot of single gals have trouble staying motivated when it comes to dating.  It's not easy to constantly put yourself out there time and time again to have the date end in a prayer, and then he loses your number. But stay motivated if you want to find Prince Charming. Read more

Do you have an abusive ex?

Walking away from old relationships entirely is a lot more difficult that just moving your feet in the right direction. Whenever you start to consider getting back together with an ex boyfriend who comes knocking at your door, one that you have a long and possibly damaged history with, there are some key notes to consider. (Remember that abuse can be mental and emotional, too) Read more

Learn from them: Not-so-conventional love stories

Loves stories are like snowflakes and chili recipes. No two are exactly the same. Sure, there are some classic love stories, like high school sweethearts or making eye contact in the streets of Paris. But even each of those tales is unique in its own way. Here are some very unconventional love stories that will hopefully inspire you to be open to love, even in unlikely situations. Read more

To my single girls: Do you need a confidence boost?

Lady, don’t even answer that question. The answer is yes. Even the most confident single girl can get a raging case of the “why mes?” when she’s constantly surrounded by married and coupled-off friends. It’s tough getting the question, “Anyone special in your life?” and answering with a big, fat “No!” Plus, the self-effacing humor we all use -- and single girls, I’ve been you before, I know what happens -- can totally get to us. So here are some confidence boosting tips to keep you feeling as fabulous as I know you are.

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