I get asked how to meet a good guy at a bar all the time. Here’s the truth, bars aren’t my favorite places for meeting potential soul mates. Do great couples meet at bars sometimes? Of course they do. So, it’s definitely possible. I just think there are other spots where meet-cutes are way more likely. But, if you’re dead set on going dude hunting at a bar, here are my tips.
Pick a good bar
Finding the right bar is key to meeting a good man while out. Pick a place where the customers are age appropriate for you and the music isn’t blaring. Avoid any place that allows fake IDs like the plague. They look fun from the outside, but you’re only going to meet college freshman drunk on Bud Lite. Think about hotel bars, where business travelers often drink alone and are very open to meeting new people, or a bar that allows cigars. Both of those types of bars will attract a more sophisticated customer base.
Follow my two-drink rule
Getting wasted may make meeting new guys less intimidating, but it definitely doesn’t lead to good decision making or lasting relationships. No good guy is going to go for a woman who’s three sheets to the wind. Stick to two drinks so you come off as the class act you are and so you’ll be in the right mind frame to judge who could be a good fit for you.
No good guy is going to go for a woman who’s three sheets to the wind.
Put down your phone
Make yourself approachable. Be open and available to new conversations. You’re just not that approachable if your eyes are glued to your phone.
Use the five-second flirt
I know I preach about this all the time, but it works. If you’ve spotted a man you think might be a winner, make eye contact with him and hold it for five seconds while you smile. It’s like catnip to men. He’ll make his way across the bar to introduce himself in no time.
There is nothing more intimidating to a man than a large group of women all standing together. A man approaching a group of eight ladies when he just wants to speak to one of them is expecting way too much. Consider going out with one other friend when you’re on a bar manhunt, or even by yourself. The fewer folks you fly with, the more of a chance a man will feel like he can approach you.
There is nothing more intimidating to a man than a large group of women all standing together.
Don’t go home with him
If you want to start something that has potential for a lasting relationship, avoid the temptation of going home with him the first night you meet him. Holding off and setting up a real first date will pay off much more in the long run.
Who out there has met a serious boyfriend at a bar? I want to know how you did it! Share your experience in the comments.